I don't want to imply that a pill should be used to fix everything, but, let's face it, there's a lot of messed up people out there. And I want to cover all the bases. When I had low testosterone I had a lot of fatigue, and a lot of anxiety. Now my T levels are great, and I'm very confident. It's like liquid confidence.
The other thing is you may have anxiety due to some other factor.
And lastly, when I was younger I was just shy. So I did something about it. I became a body builder, which helped my confidence, and was required to take a speech class in college, which also helped my confidence. When you see a 230lb football player get up in front of a room full of people and start crying because he's so nervous, it really brings one closer to everyone else, and you realize, people really do have something in common: they get nervous giving speeches! lol.
I think you just need to practice small talk. Ask out random girls, where it doesn't matter if you fail. Then practice small talk with them. Keep a card in your car with a list of topics you can talk about. Then review that card just as you go pick them up. Hide the card. Here's some topics to get you started. Talk about the topic from your point of view, or hers.
- Good movies
- Bad movies
- Scary movies
- Hobbies
- Avoid politics and religion.
- Good restaurants or favorite foods
- Sports
- TV shows
- Funny things that happened to either of you, friends or family (my aunt is an artist)
- Odd things that happened to either of you, friends, or family (my grandpa was on the "Today" show (June 2008?) because he finally graduated high school at age 93.)
- Animals. Do you like them? Which are your favorites?
- Recent news.
- Do you like her hair?
- Pet peeves.
- Does Justin Beeber's hair have it's own name?
- Does Rihanna really like whips and chains?
Also, talk to random strangers on the street. You will find that most will like to talk, if only for a minute. Don't get discouraged, some are busy and do not have time to talk. And some will talk your arm off! lol.