Jealousy? Odd situation

[phantom1]

So last night me and my ex went to a gig together (she drove) I had a few drinks (nothing heavy)

Anyway to keep it short, it was really good. We laughed, had lots of fun and even flirted. Basically if she was single things probably would have escalated. I really think she still has feelings for me but as she has a boyfriend I didn't act on them at all.

On the way home we started making plans for the next night to hang out and go for a few drinks, I was shocked. She even mentioned going to another gig in a few days. I thought great. Turns out while we were out her bf was texting her saying he had drunk half a bottle of whiskey and that they should break up if she wanted to be with me etc. I had no idea it was a problem and she was saying she told him straight up she was coming out with me and that he was fine with it.

Anyway I text her today to see if she was still up for meeting but she made up some excuse that she couldn't. I said fine and said I enjoyed last night.

My question is, what now? She didn't sound to pleased with her boyf and in honesty I would love another chance with her but wouldn't come between what she has now and even said I don't want to cause problems to which she said I'm not.

She also stated (before all this) she'd like to come up to see some of my friends who are back in the country in a few weeks.

My questions are, should I invite her still? What should I do as I don't want to lose her, even as a friend. Does her new bf sound jealous of us hanging out? I think it was a bit of a cry for attention drinking so much so she had to go to his to look after him and then blow me off the next day. I'm kinda thinking he told her not to hang with me. Advice?

First one to say move on wins...

[steviej]

First off, why did you split in the first place? You've been through all that with this girl, are you sure you want to go through another cycle of it?

He's definitely jealous and wanting her attention, who could blame him! I wouldn't be surprised if she was put in the position of choosing you or him. I wouldn't be happy if i was in his shoes knowing she was spending so much time with you.

Play it cool, see how it goes. You don't want her doing something spur of the moment with you, regretting it and then going back to him.

[Cerby]

The question is why are you hanging out with your ex if you're still clearly interested in her and she has a boyfriend? Whether she is happy with him or not, or whether he has asked her not to hang out with you, you really don't have any options other than to just wait and see if she asks you to hang out again.

The reality is, people in this situation tell themselves how bad the other persons situation is, and how much better off she would be with you, but you really have no idea how good or bad the situation ACTUALLY is. Its all based on what she has told you and what you want to hear.

No one needs to say "Move on", all the arrows already point there.

[Bo]

Yeah you shouldn't have hung out with her, vice versa.