What Should I Do?

[rawfan1989]

Here is the thing my cousin and her best friend is trying to hook me up with someone I really officially met. The only time I seen her was at my grandma's house in which we never talked. Here is the problem(s), well I did some homework on this person and I am not that attracted to her. Another thing is that I am going to school and working so time for myself to pull it together is scarce. Lastly it seems that I still have feelings for this particular individual that turned me down, but I still can not stop thinking about her. The only question I ask my self is that why does it seem that all the girls I am attracted to they turn me down. I am not ugly I give myself a 9 out of 10. Well I think from the impression I got is that the girl my cousin wants me to hook up with is desperate for someone. So I really don't think its fair for her to start going out when I really don't feel it for her. Plus like I mentioned earlier I still can't shake the feelings I have for that other person.

So 3 Questions:

1. What is your take on the matter?
2. How should I approach my cousin about the situation?
3. Should I share my feelings with that person (the one I can not forget)?

[MerryH]

1. What is your take on the matter?

You don't sound like you want to be set up with that girl at all. Why are you even considering it, then? Because she's desperate for someone and your cousin wants you to?

2. How should I approach my cousin about the situation?

"Hey cousin, I'm not looking to date anyone right now. It was nice of you to think of me, though. Thanks, anyway."

3. Should I share my feelings with that person (the one I can not forget)?

She turned you down, yes? Then you basically told her your feelings already. Telling her again is probably not going to change her mind.

Edit: Also,

I am not ugly I give myself a 9 out of 10.

A 9? Really?

[MerryH]

You don't need to post the same threads in multiple places. One thread is enough.