Question about a one night stand

[Endlessagony]

So I met this girl the other week. We were on a cruise and we were just hanging around the bar with a friend. I didn't have any intention of hooking up with anyone but my friend just kinda shoved us into this party of 3 girls (one was with her boyfriend). So everyone was hitting on her (not the girl with her boyfriend) but she wasn't interested, I just had a nice discussion with her. Somehow though I was doing something right because we started to get more intimate during the evening. She really wanted to hang along to our cabin even though there was 3 other guys sleeping there. So yeah we ended up having sex several times and didn't sleep a blink the whole night. She was really excited and was extremely affectionate (my back was full clawmarks lol).

So anyway morning came and I escorted her to her room and she didn't even say goodbye or anything. My initial thought was that it was just a one night stand but then I started thinking that she didn't really seem like that kind of person, I've never been with a person who is that cuddly and horny. So I figured what the heck I'll throw a friend invite to her on FB but it seems she won't accept it. I was thinking of maybe sending a message but perhaps that's pointless if she doesn't even accept the invite?

So my question is: did she just use me as a boytoy? I guess that's pretty cool too it would be much cooler to meet her again.
I'd love any advice on this, she was really beautiful and stuff like that just doesn't happen to me.

[steviej]

How drunk was she? Maybe she's feeling ashamed at her behaviour, especially if she isn't a one night stand kind of person.

[Endlessagony]

She was pretty drunk yeah so that's totally possible too. Maybe I'm trying overanalyze it, the thing is just that she initialized everything. That kind of screws with me, I'm not sure at all how women generally feel about things like that.
Do you think it would be a bad move to throw a message her way? I don't want to get a stalker stamp lol.

[bulrush]

Yes, she used you and doesn't want to see you again. Ever.

[Endlessagony]

Yes, she used you and doesn't want to see you again. Ever.

That's what I was afraid of, well atleast I got a great memory from it.
Man I just hate this feeling of not knowing. I was thinking of writing her a couple of thoughts, I'm really not expecting a relationship or anything like that.
I've recently broke up with my GF of 9 years and while it was a great confidence booster what happened I would've liked to know if she regretted it.
In a way I have nothing to lose writing her but yeah I'd like to not creep her out either.

[steviej]

Definitely sounds like she got drunk, lost her inhibitions and is now ashamed/embarassed at her behaviour.

She isn't keen on staying in contact, you've friend requested her and she ignored it.

[Wakeup]

Your story stops after the sex hook up. Did the cruise end the next day? If not how did the two of you interact after the sex and through the rest of the cruise?

P.S. I hope you wore a rubber

I've recently broke up with my GF of 9 years and while it was a great confidence booster what happened I would've liked to know if she regretted it.

You'd like to know if she regretted it? Why would you like to know that? What would be the purpose of that revelation to you? Anyway, women who have one night stands usually know what they want and what they are doing and having regret about their sexual habits is something they usually do not "suffer" from.

[Endlessagony]

Your story stops after the sex hook up. Did the cruise end the next day? If not how did the two of you interact after the sex and through the rest of the cruise?

P.S. I hope you wore a rubber

You'd like to know if she regretted it? Why would you like to know that? What would be the purpose of that revelation to you? Anyway, women who have one night stands usually know what they want and what they are doing and having regret about their sexual habits is something they usually do not "suffer" from.

I didn't go on the cruise back because I was traveling to another country on a longer trip and we literally had no time left to talk as I had to leave with my party for shore.
I guess the thing is I developed a small crush on her even though didn't perhaps want to admit it to myself at first (I knew this is what is was going to be). From my point of view I was just sitting there discussing being completely myself and suddenly this very attractive girl is all over me. You know I've done lots of stuff when I'm drunk which I didn't agree with the next morning, I guess it would have been important for my self esteem to know it wasn't just the alcohol in her acting.
She told me she doesn't really do one night stands and it felt genuine what she was saying, I mean she had several suitors that night she could have gone home with if she was looking just for that.
And there is the chance she just hasn't checked her facebook yet right? Just gonna wait a while and see.

ps. Yes rubbers were used throughout.

[Wakeup]

I didn't go on the cruise back because I was traveling to another country on a longer trip and we literally had no time left to talk as I had to leave with my party for shore.

Thanks for the clarification.

I guess the thing is I developed a small crush on her even though didn't perhaps want to admit it to myself at first (I knew this is what is was going to be). From my point of view I was just sitting there discussing being completely myself and suddenly this very attractive girl is all over me. You know I've done lots of stuff when I'm drunk which I didn't agree with the next morning, I guess it would have been important for my self esteem to know it wasn't just the alcohol in her acting.

I doubt it was her acting. You said yourself that she had several men to choose from and she chose you. That tells me that she liked what she saw and the alcohol gave ther the courage to approach. Woman don't think like men usually. I think most of us have to be completely physically attracted to do a one nighter whereas most men I think can just be horny and have the beer goggles on and they'll be able to perform.

She told me she doesn't really do one night stands and it felt genuine what she was saying, I mean she had several suitors that night she could have gone home with if she was looking just for that.

They all say that. .. Read above paragraph regarding her going home with any... She didn't want to go home with "any' because she found you attractive.

And there is the chance she just hasn't checked her facebook yet right? Just gonna wait a while and see.

Anything's possible. If she does do it all the time then she certainly doesn't want a relationship with you. Stop with the expectations and just chill. Consider it to be "it was what it was" and now it isnt anymore. If she contacts you then don't expect her have been thinking about you as much as you have been thinking about her. No pre-conceived ideas, no expectations = no disappointments.

There will be lots of other girls in your life.. stop pinning so much on a one nighter on a boat. Good on you for being safe too.

ps. Yes rubbers were used throughout.[/QUOTE]

[Endlessagony]

Just thought I'd update that she accepted the friend request yesterday. I think everyone here is right, she hasn't made any contact on the chat or anything.
I'm going to refrain from hitting her up to chat, perhaps she'll do it someday (doubtful) but atleast now I know she probably wasn't regretting the night and that actually feels pretty good.
I think I can manage just fine without seeing her again.

[Mona_B]

If you sent the invite without a message going with it, I think it would be ok if you send her one. Short, but sweet and if she doesn't respond, then leave it. I say that as woman :-).