Originally Posted by
Ligerlilly
I've been in a relationship with a man for close to 3 years now. Our relationship has been on and off during that time. I got a text from him today that said he was going to be meeting with an ex-girlfriend for coffee this week. His text read "im going out for coffee this week with and old friend and youre not going to like it." He knows that I'm very uncomfortable with him seeing her (we've discussed my feelings about this before) and he went ahead and made plans with her regardless. I asked him what led to them getting in touch with each other and he told me that he called her today because he wanted to see how she was doing. When I told him that I'm uncomfortable with this, and long story short, he told me that he was going to do what he wants to do and that I shouldn't be worried or concerned about it. My question is should I be upset over this? What really bothers me is that he completely disregarded my feelings and didn't consider discussing this with me before hand. Is this an issue I should be concerned over? Do I have grounds for being upset with him? What should I do?
You should either be unconcerned with what he is doing and carry on with the way things are or you should tell him that he has every right to meet up with her ... however he does not have the right to meet up with her and keep you too... then you break up with him.
Which one is closest to what you think is right? He has no intentions of listening to you or your concerns.. he's not even willing to compromise by not seeing her one-on-one.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion