About a month ago I posted about how I liked this shy guy in my group of ex-work colleagues.
Basically I was attracted to this shy guy when we worked together, he didn't feel the same and I'm getting over it. He wasn't a player and he didn't lead me on, he's single. There was some friendship there.
Our whole work group finished the project and we've gone our separate ways. However, the whole work group of guys and girls like to meet up about once a month to catch up news, have a beer etc.
Half the group hasn't found jobs and are getting despondent (including I think the shy guy I fancied).
Some of the group have been contacting me asking me what I'm up to and about meeting up again.
Here's the rub: I spent a lot of time organising the last social event where some of the group didn't bother turning up/bombed out at the last moment (including the shy guy as he had something better on).
The others are kind of suggesting I organise another event or we meet up, but I feel let down. The last time took weeks to organise to pick a day when everyone could make it. I picked a venue which was cheap, easy to get to for everyone. Also, people were emailing around saying they miss everyone and really wanted to meet in the weeks beforehand and they were excited about meeting up.
I'm thinking if you really miss people and want to meet up, you make the effort to meet up.
The social event before the last one also had a low attendance (although the shy guy was there and we had a good time, so I was happy). That was organised by one of the guys. When I offered to organise the last one the other guy organiser was happy and grateful, obviously he felt the same as I did - went to a lot of effort, talking up the social event and not that many turned up.
My issue now is one of the girls in the group: she was one who was insisting she missed everyone and wanted to meet, and said she could make the night. In the end she never turned up. I called her on the night and she never returned the call or the email a few days later asking how she was etc and I sent her another email a week after that.
Now this girl has contacted me after a month saying sorry she's ignored my texts/emails as she's been busy and changed jobs and she wants to meet up me one-on-one (on her terms).
I'm thinking she's plain rude for standing me up (there were 6 other people who turned up on the night, so I wasn't alone, although she had no idea how many people would turn up) and also she ignored several emails asking how she was.
When I said had I done something wrong, she said of course not, and she never turned up on the night before as she was working overtime (I understand that).
However, I tend to think however busy you are, you can still text to say you can't make it. Also, I know she's not that busy.
In a funny way, I more annoyed at her attitude that the guy I liked not coming, at least he emailed the day before to say he couldn't make it.
Incidentally, the shy guy has been completely silent and I haven't contacted him for about a month, as I sent him several emails and didn't get a reply, so I thought if a guy is keen he will chase, which he hasn't. I'm assuming that's it with the shy guy. Although he might be keeping silent as he doesn't have a job so doesn't want to meet as he doesn't have too much money/doesn't want people asking what's he up to when he's unemployed and finding it tough getting a job.
Thus, I'm feeling like I can't be bothered with this group if they are half-hearted about meeting up, yet always say they really want to meet up and they miss everyone.
I have other groups of friends and they say they really want to meet up and it's simple, we meet up.
Am I right to think I'm let down/messed about? or am I blowing it out of proportion?