I want to please him but i just cant do it

[whenweawake]

So me and my current bf have a pretty good sex life he is 20 and im 22. his the first guys i can talk to about sexual kind of stuff and feel comfortable experimenting with. i really want to please him and he always ask for blowjobs which his the first guys id ever concider even giving head to the only issue is.... I HAVE A HORRIBLE GAG RELEX. like i cant even brush the back of my tounge with a tooth brush bad. i know its all in my mind and we are working on it slowly all goes well until pre cum. we tried flavored condoms nope. anyone else have this issue or have any advice?

[tremolo]

If the problem is just taking him into your mouth, even just partway, you might just start by sucking the tip and stroking his shaft with your hand, and then slowly trying to take more of him in. If the problem is that you're trying to deepthroat - or close to it - and having trouble, it will help if you breathe in through your nose and try to keep the back of your throat open (imagine trying to swallow a lightbulb). Try practicing on a banana when you're away from your boyfriend. If you can do the banana but not him, then you're right - it's probably psychological.

[romantic_guy]

Tremolo gives good advice. My wife has the same problem, so I don't insist that she does this (I like her hand jobs better anyway...but that is just me). When she does do it, she does not take me in very far. The most sensitive part of the penis is the glans anyway. She will also run her lips up and down the underside of my shaft (also a sensitive part).

Just curious, does he give you oral???

[whenweawake]

Yes he does. First guy do ever make me like it.

[romantic_guy]

Great that he does that for you! I know my wife really likes it!! After 39 years of marriage she can give me direction (lighter, harder, higher, lower) which really helps. So hopefully you can give each other feedback like that.

So it is more than a gag reflex for you. You said that you were fine until the pre-cum. What is it about the pre-cum that bothers you? By the way, my wife got over that by using plenty of saliva. She does not like cum, so she has never let me cum in her mouth. I would never make her do that. But for you, you might try it once before you make up your mind.

[whenweawake]

The salt taste and cause the second I taste it my mind goes I know what it is and then I start gaging

[romantic_guy]

Ok...I understand that because my wife has the same issue. It would be ridiculous for me to say that there is nothing to it because there is for you. But you have a desire to please him and that is commendable. Unless he has a STD, cum is clean. Like I said, my wife uses plenty of saliva to dilute the taste. You might try a compromise to start. Have him let you know when he is about to cum so you can pull your mouth away and finish with your hand. At some point you might be willing to try letting him cum in your mouth. You also might try having a mint in your mouth. It has the added benefit of giving a different sensation to him.

[tremolo]

Cum isn't the greatest tasting thing in the world, but I don't really have a problem with it. It seems like your issue is psychological - that you have some mental aversion to having his fluids in your mouth. I don't know precisely how you'd overcome that, but I know that when I taste cum, or pre-cum, it pleases me because I know I'm doing a good job and I'm exciting him. If you could learn to look at it that way, and to actually welcome that, it might help you. At least with pre-cum, there's not a lot of it, so the taste is just momentary... but when he comes, you can either try to deepthroat him, so you don't have to taste it, or holding your breath, since at that point he's just unloading and you don't really have to work anymore but just keep your mouth on him. You know when you drank cold medicine as a kid and it tasted horrible so you'd probably pinch your nose while you swallowed it? I wouldn't recommend doing exactly that, but if you could stop the breath flow through your nose when he comes, you might be able to achieve a similar effect.

[romantic_guy]

Hey...good advice!! Maybe that would help my wife. See how much we can learn on here!!

[ElectricRed]

when he comes, you can either try to deepthroat him, so you don't have to taste it, or holding your breath, since at that point he's just unloading and you don't really have to work anymore but just keep your mouth on him

i don't know if what i'm going to say is a universal fact, but it feels much better for longer for me if there's still some up & down hand action when i'm coming