Originally Posted by
scott green
IMPORTANT!
Okays, wanted to go back to the original post and explain something here, as there was a big deal made about the OPs boyfriend earning a good wage -
Now, say the guy has job that pays a salary of, say £35,000 a year (that's prob $60,000 in American money) He has his own flat, so he pays rent, council tax, gas and elect bills, pays for his food to keep his fridge stocked, pays for his car, road insurance, petrol etc.
Now say his girlfriend is working in a shop, getting, say, £16k a year, and still lives with her parents.
The guy clears around £ 2100 a month after tax and national insurance. Off that he pays 500 rent, 150 council tax, 150 for combined gas and electric bills, 200 for his car a month (insurance, gas, paying off car), and say 200 a month in food. After all that comes off he's left with around 900 to spend.
The girl clears around 1100 after tax, and pays her folks 200 keep money a month for food and to keep her. She ends up with around 900 to spend.
My point is NEVER assume just because your bf has a good job and his own flat, that he has a lot more money than you to spent, especially if you still live with your parents. Until you have had a place of your own, where you have had to pay all your own bills and rent and keep a car running, you will never understand how hard it is, without having a gf who expects a guy to pay for everything because you get a big wage.
Just because a guy gets a good wage, dont mean he's a lot better off than you if he has a flat to keep, and you live with your parents.
So why should he pay for everything, *and be left skint every month, while your spend your own money on yourself? Pretty selfish attitude if you ask me. Put yourself in the guys place. Would you be happy to put up with that ??