he is too passive...

[amy86]

Hey everyone,

Have just started seeing this guy...he told me that i was "rough" (we haven't even had full sex yet!) and i apologized. We both laughed about it and he said "i'm not saying that it's a bad thing"...........i have been involved in some pretty kinky experiences, and i can tell that he wouldn't enjoy what i like........how do we compromise? We're both in our 20's...

[DoesntMatter]

Burn him with a cigarette during foreplay

[lovely2082]

too rough?lol. try to remember what kind of things u said or have done for him to assume that.. i think you should find a guy who is also aggressive or on the same level

[bloodtippedrose]

You pretty much have to do things calm and (boring) what he likes, then ease him into what you like.

If you like bondage then maybe try a blindfold, or holding his hands down or something to start with, then later tie his hands behind his back or have him do you, then eventually it will turn into tying him/you to the bed.. etc..and respond with body language and verbal pleasure everytime he does something you like. it takes quite a while, but as long as what youre into isnt really freaky he should be pretty open-minded to trying little bits at a time. Don't make him feel uncomfortable though! We all have our boundaries.

[amy86]

bahahahah thanks everyone