I have always done the pursuing.
My first serious relationship, saw the guy at a local smallish music fest. I was 'moshing' (tiny crowd), spotted him sitting down, went right up and grabbed him by the hands and said "come join in."
Next serious guy, I spotted him in town one day and was instantly drawn to him. He was rolling a smoke so I bludged one off him and next thing i knew we were eating dinner together.
'People are never perfect but love can be. People waste time looking for the perfect lover rather than creating the perfect love' - Princess Leigh-Cheri from Still Life With Woodpecker.