hi, recently an event between my husband, some others and myself has changed the entire dynamic of the relationship, but first ill give you a few detailed about what got us to this point.
My husband is 27, i am 29, we've been married a year, and were together 18 months before we married. We lived in a small city about an hour away from a big city, my husband decided to go to uni and got into one in the big city...so we decided to move there, knowing no one. I had a fairly good job, not paying much but it kept me happy, when we moved to the city i managed to get a far better paying job doing the same thing. So having no friends my husband and I became quite freindly with my office mates, having after work drinks etc. my husband has a casual job and hasnt made any real freinds, but he got on quite well with my office mates...which are all men... only one other woman there, the receptionist, whos 20 and doesnt really have anything to do with the rest of the office socially.... So this is where the problem started...
One night after having drinks with my husband and the office guys a few of the younger guys (30-45, still older than us)including the part owner/owners son, went out on the town, we'd been invited before but never went out, but this time we did. We went out for a fairly big drinking session, which turned into a taking other stuff (we'd only ever smoked a little pot every now and again)..we first had speed, and eventually lsd...my husband and I were really out of it, having never done stuff like that before....we ended back at the company owners sons apartment and continued to party, music, drinking etc, things got really loose and before I knew it I was having sex with all 5 of them including my husband right there in the living room.... not my finest moment....
So after the two day hangover, it was back to work on monday..and obviously things were different at work, but that wasnt the problem... after a few weeks of my husband being a bit off, hes totally gone crazy... So this is where i need the advise...
He wants me to quit.... I say "its not like i cheated, you wanted me to do it"
Am i right in not quiting, i wouldnt make him a job if he happened to be working with someone he had slept with.
He doesnt want me to to socialise with them anymore..... I say "they are my only freinds here, and again you wanted me to do it." Am I right in not just totally barring my work mates cus of it?
He doesnt want to hang out with them anymore... should he just get over it, its not totally wrong to do stuff like that
Suddenly my work atire is not acceptable to him... i havnt changed what i wear to work, but now its "too slutty", he doesnt like me wearing short skirts, of g strings to work....
and the final thing...probably what causes the biggest problems is that a most of it was caught on camera phone...and my husband keeps telling me that i have to get them to delete it, or maybe try to sue them to delete it.... and I keep saying "Im not going to try and make them delete it, cus there would be no way of making sure its gone, so why ask
now things at work are still great, i still get om well with everyone, theres no weirdness, we still make the odd joke or remark about it... but it seams my hiusband and I did something, and now he thinks my work mates are the enemy... so i'd like to know what people think i should do, or get my husband to do.... im considering getting a hooker to join us in bed...kind of like evening the score....any thoughts would be great.