Advice needed, yo!

[The Gent]

Greetings, fellow LoveForum brothers & sisters!
It's been too long since I've graced this site, been busy as can be as of late.

However, I seek your advice once again....so here I am!

Basically, I've been talking to a girl online for over a year...texting loads, calling each other pretty much every day.
I know the whole meeting people online thing is sorta frowned upon, but hey. I'm an open minded dude, I give anything a try if it feels right.
To cut a long story short though, I sorta ended up becoming really fond of her...& she admitted the same. Today was our first meeting, I travelled to her city & it was lovely. Talked about silly things & generally had an awesome time.
She's invited me down again soon & wants to visit me also.

I can see myself heading for a long distance relationship, and was just wondering what you guys think about my situation/ldr in general?

[BackUpOrGetStng]

It can work but it's unlikely to last unless you two have plans of moving to the same city some point fairly soon(within a year). Just take it slow, and do not set your expectations too high.




I was wondering where you were Broman Polanski.

[The Gent]

It can work but it's unlikely to last unless you two have plans of moving to the same city some point fairly soon(within a year). Just take it slow, and do not set your expectations too high.




I was wondering where you were Broman Polanski.

Is a year the usual amount of time? I'm a bit ignorant when it comes to the whole long distance thing.
I've read of some people making it last for around 4 years before one partner takes the plunge & moves.
But yeah, I'll take it easy. Kinda miss her already though!

Ahh Brohan, son of Broku. I've just been busy with work & stuff. I steered clear of love related topics of conversation since my last relationship turned sour!

[emad]

hi man .... if you really love her and she loves you ...go ahead

becuse in this days it is hard to find real love

[The Gent]

hi man .... if you really love her and she loves you ...go ahead

becuse in this days it is hard to find real love

I don't think it's quite at the old love level yet. Though, after talking to someone for a year, you certainly do build up lots of feelings for them.
She knows things about me that not even my oldest friends do, so I guess I trust her a whole lot.
If there's one girl I'd leave this town for, it'd certainly be her.

[The Gent]

Man, I don't know what's wrong with me. Totally off my food & all I wanna do is sleep all day.
I have this horrible nagging feeling that she was a bit disappointed with me in person.
Hmm.

[Wakeup]

... And so the doubts begin.

I think long distance relationships work when there is a solid foundation, where you've lived close together, formed a relationship and then it becomes long distance due to circumstances. I don't think they work (very often) when they are based on words on a screen and then a meet or two. You can't learn about someones true personality and quirks that go with it through words on a screen. When someone is tucked behind a screen, living far away, it's easy to become vulnerable to them because you feel safe and originally think you'll never meet one another anyway so you don't put on a mask of any sort. One has to allow themselves to become vulnerable to someone else in order for love to form.

Anyhoo.. You'll need to have the money to visit one another often if you want this to suceed. Now that you've met, you're going to need one on one bonding because psychologically, the words on the screen aint going to do it for either of you anymore for much longer. IMO.

Cheers and good luck.

[The Gent]

Greetings, it's been too long, Wakeup!
Thanks for the reply. I understand what you're saying...I really do. But, when it's your own feelings involved, it's a lot harder to remain rational lol.
Yeah as I mentioned earlier, she's invited me down in the next few weeks, so we'll see how things go.
I had such a wonderful day with her yesterday, but as soon as I got home. I felt really down, just seems typical for me to meet someone who's so perfect for me & she's not local.

[The Gent]

Ah well, heard nothing from her in 2 days.
Guess that's the end of this little tale then haha.