Hi, i'm new here and i have some problems that i couldn't carry out with my friend and my parents.
I, had a 6 year long relationtship. I, am 25 y.o. and she is 2 years younger than me.
Before her i had some relationships but nothing serious, she had one or two boyfriends and thas it.
The problem is......for 5,5 years everithing was going fine, with some small problems, but it was pretty nice. Than 3 months ago she cheated me with some guy ( 6 times )......yes it was small relationtship but based on sex, we dated that time normaly........she couldn't keep secret so she eventualy told me about that. There was a big fight between us, and i managed to forgive her. Well she was pretty down at the time, she was crying and all that.......so i sad to myself, ok, everybody makes mistakes, let's start over.
After that period 3 weeks ago ( begining of february ), she wen't on mountain for skiing with her friends.
When she got back, girlfriend of my best friend, who was with here there also, told me that she saw her kissing with some guy. I asked my girlfriend about that, and after huge persuasion ( don't know other word in english ) she told me that she had sex with him. Even worse, she got drunk and started to flirt on the wery first thay of her hollyday. The odd thing is that i have been told that she talked about me all that day, but what happened to her on that evening, nobody could answer. Well it was clearly 5 day long relationship.
When i heard that i dumped her emediatly.
My problem is:
1) I love her very very much ( i beleve that she is my true love ), and in my heart i feel that i shouldn't dump her, but my brain tell's me that it was write thing to do.
After all i didn't want to dump her, i was forced, buy her cheating.
2) Everithing that happened on that mountain doesn't look like her, but she confesed that she did it.
She is now all messed up, she is calling me every day - asking me for another chance ( i gave her chance first time ).
I wan't to beleve that we will be together.......in few months or in 1-2 years, as long as she need to realize some things about her self. In meantime i want to date other girls......to see if my judgement was write in some way......i would also wish that same for her. After all i love her that much that if this is the way for her to grew-up in some way, the let it be what is ment to be.
Please give me some advice, what to do.
I have some plans like......basicly we are now broke up, and she could do anything she want's to, but i hope that she will learn to appriciate some things in not so distant future. And that we could start over, because........well i'm angry, but i have that stomach feeling that we should be together. But how to now that it would not happen again?
Do you think that it is possible for her to do it, i menat to ask her self some question or to look deep into herself?
Please help me, i'm all confused?
Thank you all
P.S.
Sorry for bad english writing, and if you need more details feel free to ask.