I feel like a mess

[Mostly Happy]

Okay everyone, this is my first post on this forum... let's see how it goes.

I'm in my final year of school and over the last couple of months I've started to feel attracted to other guys and finally decided to start calling myself a bisexual. I've only told one of my best friends who happens to be a chick. She's been really helpful but I haven't had much time to talk about it (one of us is too busy with assessment tasks, etc). I'm still really confused about these feelings and the only reason I told anyone about it is because I was starting to get really stressed out about it and depressed (I also got really depressed around this time last year and was thinking of killing myself, never attempted though).

Then there's the other thing that's been stressing me out a little. I think I might be developing feelings for that best friend I mentioned. We're both in relationships (she's been with her boyfriend for a year, while I've recently gotten together with my girlfriend) and I wouldn't ever want to ruin our friendship, she's like a sister to me. She's always very close with people (hugging and whatnot) and I can't help but think that's part of the reason. I'm thinking of talking to her boyfriend about it, just that it makes me uncomfortable.

I'm going on holidays soon (as it's near the end of school) and I'll be unable to reply
Thanks in advance for any opinions or advice though

[devonbrown]

First, let me say this as clearly as possible. If you like a girl who is not your boyfriend and you have a girlfriend, doing this is possibly the worst thing you could do:

I'm thinking of talking to her boyfriend about it,

Why why why why why would you think that talking to the boyfriend of the girl you like illicitly be a good idea???!!

Also, the fact that you shared your feelings of bisexuality to your friend might be causing you to start feeling more for her than you normally would. She has been a good listener and support for you, but don't confuse that for romantic affection.

Also, if your depression causes you to consider suicide then it is time to talk to a professional about it, not just a friend. Talk to a guidance counselor if you are still in school, or see a therapist if possible. They have the professional resources to try to assist you better than your friend or a group of strangers on a message board.

Good luck.

[bulrush]

No problem if you're bi. But don't steal someone else's girlfriend. Or boyfriend.

[Mostly Happy]

Sorry about the late reply guys, haven't had access to a computer in a while.

First, let me say this as clearly as possible. If you like a girl who is not your boyfriend and you have a girlfriend, doing this is possibly the worst thing you could do:
I'm thinking of talking to her boyfriend about it,
Why why why why why would you think that talking to the boyfriend of the girl you like illicitly be a good idea???!!

I wanted to tell her boyfriend that the way she acts makes me feel uncomfortable at times, and truthfully it does. He's a pretty good friend of mine I suppose and I'd never want to steal her from him, I guess what I was having was more fantasies than anything else.

Also, the fact that you shared your feelings of bisexuality to your friend might be causing you to start feeling more for her than you normally would. She has been a good listener and support for you, but don't confuse that for romantic affection.

I never thought about it that way, thank you I never once thought that she liked me though, I thought I liked her but didn't want to jeopardise our friendship.

Also, if your depression causes you to consider suicide then it is time to talk to a professional about it, not just a friend. Talk to a guidance counselor if you are still in school, or see a therapist if possible. They have the professional resources to try to assist you better than your friend or a group of strangers on a message board

Well, at the moment it isn't and I don't want to have any reason to scare everyone into thinking I'm suicidal. Normally I tend to get a little depressed this time of year and it just happens that last year was worse than usual. If it gets that bad again I'm going to see someone about it