Subtlety, you mentioned you are on Social Security Disability. I'm not being mean, but I need to know if you have cognitive/neurological problems? You seem to not have a lot of experience with women.
IME, this is what most women want, though there are exceptions:
- A good looking partner. Though most women won't admit it, the partner should be at least average looking, or better.
- A partner with good hygiene. There are still lots of men out there who don't even shower every day though they REALLY need to. Almost every time, these men have a certain look all around: bad/dirty clothes, uncombed hair, bad teeth, and a bad smell. If you are 25 years old and missing 5 teeth, that's a big red flag.
- A person with a steady job that earns income to support a family. Aka "financial stability". SSDI does not offer that.
- A person with their own house and car. This indicates financial stability.
- Someone who respects them as a person, and doesn't treat them like a sex object. I hate getting treated like a wallet when I have to pay for all the dates. If a girl is a great girl, but she's a cheapskate, I still break up with her.
- Someone with a stable personality who will not physically or emotionally hurt them. This is where honesty comes into play.
- Someone who will be a good father. Almost all young women want children in the long-term.
- Someone who has the self-respect not to abuse their body with food, tobacco, or alcohol. You only get one body. If you abuse it, are you really a fit mate?
An "intimate" connection is an emotional connection. It may or may not include sex. It's where both people share very personal things about themselves. Or share their feelings about each other. Note: if you say you love someone on the first or second date, it's going to sound creepy. Love just doesn't happen that fast. Something that fast is called "infatuation" or "pupply love".
Last edited by bulrush; 17-10-11 at 11:04 PM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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