Some of you may have read my thread last week titled 'The girl I like likes someone else. What do I do?' Thanks to everyone who gave me some advice on this.
Long story short, I am 17 and I really like this girl who likes someone else. Now, she has stopped liking this other guy. So basically, I'm just trying to hang out with her so that she can get to know me better and then may grow to like me.
The problem is that, because at the moment she doesn't like me (she told me this), she does not want to hang out with me alone because she feels that she will be 'stringing me along'. She and this other guy that she used to like were pretty much bf and gf. However, this guy was, at the same time, off having sex with someone else and said that he thought the girl that I like was mellow and not good enough for him. Hence, he was 'stringing her along'. And so this is why she feels that if we hang out alone together, she will be 'stringing me along'. Now, I know that I can't expect her to hang out with me alone as she doesn't like me, but she has many close guy friends that she occasionally hangs out with alone; nothing happens, they are just friends. So if she didn't know that I like her, she would still be willing to hang out with me alone.
I respect the fact that she is still getting over this other guy, and so I do not want to go getting my hopes up fast, or jump the gun and go asking her out on dates etc. But basically, I just want to hang out with her more so that we can get to know each other better. I was talking it over with my friends (they are her friends as well) and they were saying that she would be happy to hang out with me alone. And now they think she is being bit of a b**ch about the whole 'stringing me along thing'. Someone has discussed it with her and she told them it is not an excuss to say no to me, it's just she doesn't want to go along getting my hopes up, which is fair enough. But I am honestly not going to be getting my hopes up any time soon. I just want to hang out with her. I am in this for the long run. I am constantly thinking about her (I know this isn't really good) and just being with her makes me so happy and all that sort of stuff.
So, I am just wondering what are some good conversation starters to use when I see her in our group of friends, and just want to talk to her?? I am not very good when it comes to this and so really need some advice on how to talk to her about things that we can just have a general chat about and get to know one another better. And are there are other ways that I can perhaps convince her to spend some time with me alone, just as friends??
Thanks in advance.