Boyfriend cheating on me with porn - how do I put a stop to this?

[bloodtippedrose]

It helps us to realize just how deep your psychosis goes.

Do you believe in Brownies, Fairies, Elves and Leprechauns, or just the invisible man in the sky?

so happy fsm's children are strong on this forum

[HeartIsAching]

LMAO! Indeed. All Hail the Flying Spaghetti Monster!

[Rachel Pierce]

Wow that proves it all! Porn is the devils work. If it says so, it must be so.

Thanks. Also on the subject of porn and masturbation, I also recommend people read the wonderful “Porn-Again Christian: A Frank Discussion on Pornography & Masturbation for God’s Men". My Youth Pastor actually sent me the link to this, so hope it helps explain it better. It's by respected Pastor Mark Driscoll of Seattle’s Mars Hill Church. He goes into a lot more detail than I ever could in explaining how masturturbation can turn someone gay. Please look it up, and read the entire thing, as I dont want to post too much from it, as there are a lot of useful stuff on there. Actually, here's a really useful quote from it -

“Masturbation can be a form of homosexuality because it is a sexual act that does not involve a woman. If a man were to masturbate while engaged in other forms of sexual intimacy with his wife then he would not be doing so in a homosexual way. However, any man who does so without his wife in the room is bordering on homosexuality activity, particularly if he’s watching himself in a mirror and being turned on by his own male body.”

[Mathias]

I don't believe in Jesus. I believe in the one true god.

All hail His noodly appendage.

[am76]

Okay, look. Aside from ALL the opinions posted here... It seems pretty simple to me without bringing religion and trash talking into it. Rachael, your views seem to be one sided. And although you are entitled to your own opinion, I can guarantee that it's going to be difficult to find someone who agrees with EVERYTHING you believe. Personally, I don't agree with a single thing you've written, but again, thats my entitlement.

You seem to be making alot of rules for him, and I guarantee that is going to get old on his end very quickly. He will likely leave you in the long run because he will feel he can't be himself, have his own freedom, or even think for himself at that rate.

Me and my boyfriend have disagreed about a TON of things, but, I am VERY reasonable. I try to always see his side, and put myself in his shoes. There has got to be a reason your boyfriend likes watching porn. I watch it because the mere act of sex is exciting. I would guess that even if you both have a healthy sex relationship, he is craving excitement. I bet, if you didn't flip out on him, and if you LET HIM talk to you without making him feel afraid of being honest with you, you would find out why he does. But honestly, the answer could be as simple as: He doesn't share your disgust with porn and that is just who he is. MANY more people find porn acceptable than people who don't.

You need to compromise with him. Would you rather him be in the comfort of his own home, watching something to get him excited, or would you rather him be in an online chat room having cyber sex, phone sex, or sleeping with random girls when he is out?

Also, if its excitement he craves, and he likes porn. Tell him that those 'sluts' don't have shit on you, and make a really sexy video of the 2 of you, kept under lock and key, for him to watch when he feels he needs to watch something. If you stop yelling, and start meeting some of his natural guy needs.. He will be a much much happier man I can guarantee you.

You just need to understand that not everyone wil share your opinions, and its not right to force them to. If he doesn't, he doesn't. And if you can't accept it, you need to let him go.

[MetalPhoenix]

Okay, look. Aside from ALL the opinions posted here... It seems pretty simple to me without bringing religion and trash talking into it. Rachael, your views seem to be one sided. And although you are entitled to your own opinion, I can guarantee that it's going to be difficult to find someone who agrees with EVERYTHING you believe. Personally, I don't agree with a single thing you've written, but again, thats my entitlement.

You seem to be making alot of rules for him, and I guarantee that is going to get old on his end very quickly. He will likely leave you in the long run because he will feel he can't be himself, have his own freedom, or even think for himself at that rate.

Me and my boyfriend have disagreed about a TON of things, but, I am VERY reasonable. I try to always see his side, and put myself in his shoes. There has got to be a reason your boyfriend likes watching porn. I watch it because the mere act of sex is exciting. I would guess that even if you both have a healthy sex relationship, he is craving excitement. I bet, if you didn't flip out on him, and if you LET HIM talk to you without making him feel afraid of being honest with you, you would find out why he does. But honestly, the answer could be as simple as: He doesn't share your disgust with porn and that is just who he is. MANY more people find porn acceptable than people who don't.

You need to compromise with him. Would you rather him be in the comfort of his own home, watching something to get him excited, or would you rather him be in an online chat room having cyber sex, phone sex, or sleeping with random girls when he is out?

Also, if its excitement he craves, and he likes porn. Tell him that those 'sluts' don't have shit on you, and make a really sexy video of the 2 of you, kept under lock and key, for him to watch when he feels he needs to watch something. If you stop yelling, and start meeting some of his natural guy needs.. He will be a much much happier man I can guarantee you.

You just need to understand that not everyone wil share your opinions, and its not right to force them to. If he doesn't, he doesn't. And if you can't accept it, you need to let him go.

Won't work.

If she's truly a Christian, she'll refuse any argument, proof, insights, hints, tips etc. from other people.
These people are so fixated on that one book that any rational argument goes straight past them.

The articles she quoted are from Christian sites. Off course they going to be against porn...They'll do anything to promote their own lies and false ideas.

And I WILL bring religion into this. She's an atheist as well. She's an atheist when it comes to Allah, Shiva, Thor, Odin, Zeus, Ra and many others. According to her none of these exist.
Religion is based on time and location. If she was born in ancient greece, she'd be praying to Zeus. Present day Iran, she'd probably go for Allah..

Religion is the weak excuse for fear of what cannot be explained (yet)

[mwahahaha]

"Masterbation can be a form of homosexuality especially if you look in the mirror"
lol
wtf
Have you been in my bedroom?

[Wakeup]

I also recommend people read the wonderful "Porn-Again Christian:

Any idea when it will be out on video?

[Boisdevie]

Reply to OP.
According to an anti-porn website - porn is bad.
According to another website - masturbation is bad.

Quelle surprise.
Please feel free to continue disagreeing with us. I haven't had as much fun in ages.

[IndiReloaded]

Thanks. Also on the subject of porn and masturbation, I also recommend people read the wonderful “Porn-Again Christian: A Frank Discussion on Pornography & Masturbation for God’s Men". My Youth Pastor actually sent me the link to this, so hope it helps explain it better. It's by respected Pastor Mark Driscoll of Seattle’s Mars Hill Church. He goes into a lot more detail than I ever could in explaining how masturturbation can turn someone gay. Please look it up, and read the entire thing, as I dont want to post too much from it, as there are a lot of useful stuff on there. Actually, here's a really useful quote from it -

BTR was being facetious, you idiot. Take your religious-based biases elsewhere. Noone here cares what you think.

[IndiReloaded]

Oh, and you've forgotten the obvious: PRAY FOR HIM TO STOP USING PORN.

[steviej]

Any idea when it will be out on video?

Bwhahahaha!

Rachel when i'm fapping naked in front of the mirror and just before i shoot my load i close my eyes and think of you does it still make me gay?

[qwertz]

Thanks for the laugh, OP.

[bulrush]

Rachel,
I addressed your relationship issues in my first post in this thread:

If you don't like his porn, don't date him.

Also:

1. You cannot change him unless he wants to change.
2. You are a bit controlling.
3. You seem to have a bit of "Jesus Syndrome", trying to save people who you think need to be saved. Yet you fail to open your mind and improve yourself. Is that really what Jesus would do?

[workingman78]

Rachel, I require you to give us a quote/example from a place that is a mecically acredited site. Just because someone says something does not make it true.