Should I break up with her?

[thebadape]

I'll try and make this very short; I've been with my girlfriend 9 months but she's an absolute nightmare.

She's 18 and I'm 22, but she's very immature for her age. She will happily sit and play games like Neopets online for up to 15 hours a day and there isn't really a day that she will devote her time to me at all. The problem is, it's always been this way. She's absolute addicted to computers- and there has been times earlier on in our relationship where I have found suggestive pictures and comments on websites that you wouldn't post if you 'loved' someone like she says she does me.

She's planned before to go on holiday with a friend she knows on the internet - but planned to share a room with him. This is a boy she'd previously described as cute and beautiful. I'm in no way suggesting that she'd cheat, but I don't think you'd happily do that if you were so 'in love' with someone else.

It gets worse though; she's physically and mentally abusive. If she gets in a mood and I try and calm her down, she lashes out. I have a scar under my left eye that she left me a while ago, and cuts across my arms where she's recently scratched me with her nails. She has also shouted abuse at my mother as well as many times at me, more than once wishing I was dead and saying she hates me.

The nail in the head really was when she shouted at me for 'not buying her enough stuff'. This is an argument we have had on many occasions; she ALWAYS demands things, and I simply cannot afford it. I earn approx £100 a week, pay £25 rent to my mother a week and have to cover bills such as food and phone bills. The little money I have left afterwards I am trying to save to put to use to go college with next year but she constantly demands. But when I say that I brought her a necklace a few months ago that she purposefully broke into pieces in front of me the other day because it "didn't mean anything", why should I buy her anything?

She's very lovely when she wants to be; very lovely, and fun to be with and I do love her and want this to work. I simply cannot see how it can any more though, I'm constantly feeling like it's going to explode soon, and although I want to savour something from this, I don't see how i deserve to be treated like this when I do nothing but give her 100% love and affection.

I know the answer I will be given; walk away, but when I see her every single day and do love her, it's hard to put myself in the mind to actually have the gall to do it. Any help appreciated, thanks guys!

[Leona77]

From what you are saying it's obvious that the girl has a lot of issues: violence, addictive personality, mental & physical abuse, stinginess, lack of emotional boundaries and empathy.I don't see what it is that it's actually good about her? Except maybe that you are attracted to her? Does she want to work on the issues? It doesn't sound like it. it sounds like she doesn't give a damn about you. I would walk away as fast as I can. Nobody deserves to be treated that way. Usually people who have only one of this issues are difficult to ope with,let alone all of them together. Think about why you like her. Any positive traits?

[searock]

Yes, you should.

[bulrush]

Yes you should break up. She is abusive, a cheapskate, and I think she will cheat on you. I don't think she is "in love" with you, I think she likes the abstract concept of "love". She is too young to know what love really is. You can do much better.