What the fuck is it with you? Anytime someone says anything, you retort with a completely irrelevant point and it's embarrassing for everyone involved.
She's just saying that when a man masturbates, he should occasionally think about the girl he's with. That's all.
This is probably too complicated to understand because you wouldn't ever have a sexual relationship with anyone you were attracted to, seeing as they all have bulging eyes from thyroid problems. Kill yourself.
I have been married for 39 years and I think of my wife when I masturbate. I think of the time we were dating as teenagers, I think of her in a hot pair of short-shorts, I think of the great sex we had on our 39th anniversary last summer in the Riviera Maya. I masturbate while looking at the nude pics I have of her and the homemade sex vids we have of us. She is HOT.
The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. -- 1 Corinthians 7 (The Message)
Nobody wants to hear about your wrinkle-sex, old man.
(But seriously, you're an anomaly.)
Guys are visual creatures.
If your problem is with him looking at some stranger online, just give him so naughty pics of yourself for him to use. Problem solved.
Thing is, I haven't idealized any "motives" that I know of. Here's what I think:
a guy is in a healthy relationship -> his SO is one of the "things" (if not the thing) that turn him on the most -> he naturally thinks about her (as well as other things) when he masturbates, because it turns him on.
At least that's how it works for me, as a female.
Last edited by searock; 01-11-11 at 03:53 PM.
Originally Posted by doppelgaengerYou're repetitive and unoriginal. Can't you come up with better ways to try to be me?Originally Posted by doppelgaenger
I find it delusional to think that everybody or even that most people end up with someone whom they find most attractive sexually. Even the attractive people who have more than one option to choose from are limited more or less to their local area. They won't ever meet everyone. Attractive people gravitate towards a career in porn. I would find it amazing if I ever was aquainted with someone more attractive than say any of my top 10 favourite porn stars. Sure, people have different tastes and might not be turned on by most people in porn. Most likely they'll still find most attractive people among celebrities. The point is, it's very unlikely that anyones social circle includes the people whom they find the most attractive. Very attractive or lucky people might have a SO who is the most attractive among their social circle. If their preferences are peculiar, they might even find them more attractive than celebrities or porn stars. I believe this situation is quite rare but even then, there's still someone more attractive out there that they just haven't met (ok, this is besides the point since no one is going to think about people they haven't ever met).
As a guy, when I masturbate, most of my arousal comes from sensory stimulation. Sure my imagination is essential as well but what I think about is sex. And perhaps something more complex depending on what I'm watching. I don't think about people.
You can't buy love, but you pay heavily for it.
Several people on this thread have explained that guys like variety, but you still don't get it. It doesn't mean the guy doesn't love their gf, it's just the way guys are wired. Guys are wired to impregnate as many females as possible as quickly as possible. Thus, the need for variety in men has survived evolution. Or Jeebus made you do it, whatever you want to believe.
For various reasons, almost NO guy ends up with their physically ideal mate. That's just the way it is. So they are always finding someone else attractive. Doesn't mean they don't love or aren't committed to their gf.
Last edited by bulrush; 02-11-11 at 11:50 PM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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Can you please take your BIBLE THUMPING ASS somewhere else where the people actually believe & BUY in to your bullshit!! I'm so tired of reading your ramblings...there are plenty of other forums that will take your crazy rambling preaching nonsense, NOT HERE!! Mods can we see DEAD after this 1's name soon...lol