This girl is tearing me apart , i love her, please advice me what to do now.

[Elegance101]

Hi , I like this girl who is in my Uni . I have been seeing her around since the last 6 months. I can clearly see that she likes me. But its mixed reaction all the times. Some times she was too much into me which i could figure out her trying to get my attention , her eyes etc. But i never spoke to her except once when she was talking to a common friend. Recent she started acting really weird . I was sitting in the library and she came with her ex and stood right where i was sitting and started cuddling him and then subtly cheking out my reaction, her ex was doing the same as he knows me through some one. I tried hard to not give any reaction, but i felt a little embarrased as i really liked her. I am guessing the reason for this reaction could be the common friend who made a joke on her infront of her friends the day before and told me later that she was very embarrassed . I see her in the common room all the time as i go there often. The next day she was sitting there with her girl friends and i tried to act like i am not interested. But my presence does affect her very much and she starts acting as she wants attention by talking loudly , laughing etc and looks at me when i am not looking may be to see if i am looking at her. I really like this girl and i have only few weeks of my uni left , please advice me why is she acting so mean, and what should i be doing now???

[greentea11]

Do you really want to be with a mean girl?

[Cerby]

Here is your advice: TALK TO HER.

[Elegance101]

I just talk to that guy because he was a common friend so i thought maybe i could get a chance to talk to her through him which i did get once when i talked to her and she wnted to talk to me thats what it looked like but her friend took her to the class. I know she is mean but give me a solution to this problem.What pisses me off is the guy shes with is a looser , good for nothing, hits on every woman he comes across to and has even gone to jail, but she thinks hes a nice guy and knows nothing about what he goes around doing. Talking to her is not that easy for me, i can give it a shot though. The only times i see her is when she passes by walking around, sitting in the cafe eating, or most frequently in the library with her friends.

[greentea11]

Well if you do end up with her I hope she appreciates you. You seem to care a lot about her and want her to be treated right. I hope she can do the same for you. If you want to try to talk to her just smile at her when you see her looking at you. Start to see how she reacts to that. See how she reacts when you talk to other girls since it seems like she is playing that game. If you walk past her and smile and she smiles back say something short but cute like if its cold just kinda laugh and say wow, its cold today and chuckle. And keep walking. I see people do this and its like little ice breakers. Just act confident. Definitely with a girl like this. And making friends with her friends is a good idea, maybe try to do something as a group.

P.s I have a question, if you have time. Its about a shy guy

[bulrush]

I just talk to that guy because he was a common friend so i thought maybe i could get a chance to talk to her through him which i did get once when i talked to her and she wnted to talk to me thats what it looked like but her friend took her to the class. I know she is mean but give me a solution to this problem.What pisses me off is the guy shes with is a looser , good for nothing, hits on every woman he comes across to and has even gone to jail, but she thinks hes a nice guy and knows nothing about what he goes around doing. Talking to her is not that easy for me, i can give it a shot though. The only times i see her is when she passes by walking around, sitting in the cafe eating, or most frequently in the library with her friends.

She sounds like a real keeper. NOT.

[Elegance101]

Some thing unbelievable happened!!! I was in the library on Friday. She was sitting there with her friend, i went and sat as well a little far away, i could see her really interested in me very genuinely this time when she was looking at me. I went out to get something, she came out from the same way to go to the toilet i could see her coming from the same way behind me. Back in the library after she came back I could see her looking at me a lot, she went out again to grab something, i stood at the door pretending to writing a text on my mobile, she was coming in and her eyes caught mine and she with a bit shying voice said "hi i said hi too and she kept looking at me and passed by back in. This is something that i didn't expect whatsoever. Back inside she was looking at me a lot. i have now got only 2 weeks of Uni left , then i am gone and probably wont get to see her again.I think she doesn't know that i am not coming back for the next semester but she knows that theres a 3 months break and she wont see me for another 3 months. I am planning to make an approach this week, could you please tell me should i ask her to become my friend or straight away tell her that i like her or love her??(shes 20 years old if that cud help)

[kdkd727]

LOVE HER????? wow....ummmmmmmm.....sounds like you're going to have to get thru this one on your own.....at this point there is no advice you're going to take, if you could even contemplate telling somebody you love them in a situation like this....you also havent been stomped on enough to recognize this girl is bad news....she is insecure and manipulative....touch the stove buddy, you need some scars on your hands.....after a couple girls like this, THEN you might start figuring it out.....oh by the way....i know .....because I WAS YOU......went through the same thing for years, chasing girls JUST LIKE THAT....then one day....i stopped....