Need a females perspective - what's going on here?

[vaguemedia]

Ok so I've been seeing this girl for almost three months. Last week we made it official.

So this girl I'm dating has a lot of male friends. Fine. I don't care as long as it is what it is and nothing more, then I'm willing to trust her.

One of her male friends just made a major purchase for her, a 600 dollar TV. this was just days after we made it offical. I've never met the guy, and from what she's told me, he's not very faithful to his girlfriend. This guy sends my girlfriend a lot of text messages.

She insists that it's nothing, but come on now. I would never put out that kind of money unless I'm expecting something in return. I basicly told her exactly that, and she's acting like i don't have any right to say anything about it.

She's known the guy for a few years, and she admited that he likes her. He's bought stuff for her in the past. What am I supposed to do here? I don't blame her for excepting the gift, because she's barely getting by. But I feel like she should have made a bigger effort to let me know that nothing is up.

I feel like I might be getting played, or she has no respect for me in the relationship.

I like this girl and I want it to work. But when things like this happen, it makes me think think twice.

[mwahahaha]

yeah dude. This tv buying comedian wants to pump your bird.
If i was you id ask her to put the tv in your house, it sounds like a good one.

[gigigi]

yeah that sounds sketchy to me. personally i'd never accept such an expensive gift from a male other than my bf or a family member.

[E.T.]

Certainly not a comforting turn of events but at least she was honest about the origins of it.
She could have said ..oh,my uncle bought it for me.
Like my ex did.

[mwahahaha]

wtf
5 posts , and 2 of the posters have lost birds to dudes that buy tvs .
Where i come from, a big mac and a mcflurry is enough for most birds to drop them.
only in america/canada

[misombra]

you are both getting played.

[InLimbo]

I agree your being played right out of the box. Three months and there are already boundaries of trust that are questionable. Think about it. Hurt is coming if you don't get a grip on your heart now. This isn't worth making work. Making a realtionship work is only after years of investment, not just a few months.

[mwahahaha]

Dont be too hasty to ditch this gobshite telly grabber. The best thing you could do, is tell your bird to hint to this dude that she wants a playstation. Numbnuts will directly go and buy her one thinking this will seal the deal. Then, when your bird inevitably sucks this dude off, she might let you have the playstation because she feels gulity for blowing a dude for electrical goods. Its a win win situation. If you fancy pushing your luck, get your bird to try get tiger woods 2006 off this dude, although this might set alarm bells off, because he will wonder why a bird wants a golf game , when no woman can even understand what an albatros is. This is the way of the modern world dude. No one has feelings anymore, only expensive electrical items as mementos. Dont be the one left holding his dick when the shit hits the fan. Get yourself a nice console out this charade.

[Gypsybell]

I am hearing the bit about "she's barely getting by..." So it sounds like your girl is poor and doesn't have much in the way of luxury. Does she also have kids? Or is she very young and a student, maybe?

Sometimes it is easy to blur the lines about what is ideal ethically, and using random opportunities to do the best you can. If she didn't have a tv, couldn't afford one, and he gave her one, then it would be easy to take it on face value (even if she did suspect he has ulterior motives. That's his problem, not hers. And if she is not being unfaithful, then it's not yours either. It boils to 'do you trust her or not?' Maybe she just needs time to settle into your new status as a couple and has loose ends to tie up. She may have been relying on the comraderie of those male friends for some time. But she chose you, so give it time.

If, on the other hand, she's taking gifts from men and continues to do so, making you jealous, and with no regard for your feelings on the matter, then maybe she's not the girl for you.