Originally Posted by
royston1
Am I the one who is supposed to undress her? Yes.
Is it my job to ask for a condom? Yes. Most girls don't like ribbed. In fact, I've never met a girl that liked ribbed, so don't get those. Get one with lube.
Is it okay to touch her, feel her breasts ect? Yes.
Do I follow her lead, or take the lead? And what about position changing, do I ask her?! Most girls want the man to lead. She is also probably nervous and may not know much about sex. As for positions, keep it simple with one position.
Will she feel pleasured? I hope so. Chocolate helps.
How long are we suppose to be at it, is there some average time? If this is your first time, you should have a wank earlier that day. Your first time will likely be short, as that is how the young male body acts. The more you practice having sex, the longer it will last.
Do I tell here when im about to ejaculate and do I pull out or let it go, you know where? Put the condom on before penetration. Otherwise, you're a daddy. Then, with the condom on, you can orgasm inside her.
Is she suppose to have an orgasm hereself, and if she is, how do i know?! Probably not. She might be too nervous to have an orgasm.
Just take things slowly and be gentle with her. Do not go too fast as the friction might hurt her. I'm sure she's has not had a lot of experience.
A few more things:
- Don't say "thank you" afterwards. It makes the girl feel cheap.
- Snuggle with her afterwards. Talk to her if she wants you to talk.
- Tell her it was wonderful and she did just fine, if she appears nervous. Don't say "it was awesome". That sounds immature.
Last edited by bulrush; 07-11-11 at 06:27 AM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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