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    in love need help

    hello im friends with a lady and her husband who are both in an open marriage shes 30 and im 31 so heres the problem im falling in love with the wife and her hubby doesnt know but i know her hubby is ok with us sleeping together as he has slept with other women and his wife is ok with it as long as they tell each other what there doing and who there doing it with its all good now the problem has gotten worse cuz not only am i in love with my friend who happens to be married but she txted me today abnd told me she loves me and that she cant stop thinking about me hell she cant even get me outta her mind nor can i get her outta mind idk what to do n she doesnt know what to do please help us out when she does come over she kisses me and hugs me and holds me but when were around her hubby we keep it descreet so he doesnt find out both her and i are deeply and madly in love ind we dont know what to do? more info she has recently started teling me that her hubby never tells her he loves her and when they have sex its all about him plus he never helps around the house and when she asks him to help he gets lazy and does a half ass job


    wedecided to have a polyamoprous relationship her hubby included
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    Ok, she doesn't want the hubby to know about the emotional affair. Now you're in bad territory. Sometimes these things happen, but don't expect her to leave her husband. Yes they are in an open relationship. But love isn't part of the deal. You're there for sex, maybe friendship, nothing more. So deal with it.

    Sometimes a little emotional involvement is expected in these things, and the main couple talks about it. It's all fun and romantic, it runs its course, and is over in 3 months. End of story.
    I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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    Was that first post even english?

    She wont leave him. You are going to be shredded. 'Requited love denied' is the worst situation to be in. Sex, friendship--I agree with bulrush, don't expect more. Of course, if she lets you sleep w/her, it might help to get her out of your system. Or hook you completely. Every situation is different. Good luck.
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