Recently, I ended a relationship that was very promising but in the end it turned out that he is immature and I must be the one who will work to bring the success to the relationship for the two of us.So, I ended it, knowing he won't change, ever.
In the meantime, after a week, I met a colleague we often cooperate , in a bar.At work, he is not very friendly and he is sometimes sarcastic and arrogant, but in the bar he was very friendly and nice.And, what I most liked, he was acting like a gentleman which wasn't the case with my ex.Anyway, at the end of the night, he kissed me, he drove me home, kissed me again for 'goodnight' and just when I thought it is a nice night and we should maybe leave things like that he asked for my number.
Next day, he called me but I said I already had plans.Day after, he texted me with his number from his office (which I knew already) telling me to text him or call him in the office so we can see each other for a coffee. I didn't want to call because it would be awkward calling him there, so I texted, but in the same time I wondered why does he want me to call in his office so soon, that he might keep us as a secret at least for a while.
We met for a coffee after work, the chat were friendly, he kissed me for good night again and called me agaain in two days asking about my plans for the weekend.I told him I am sick and that I can't do nothing but stay home and drink tea.
Next day, on Facebook he asked me if he can come over and he was kind of pushy.I said I am not alone.And, his next question was :what I want from him?And what I expect from him?
I thought he got mad because it seemed like I am avoiding him and dont wanna go out with him and I said it is too early for me to know what I want,that I don't know him enough, but that I like him and I think he knows it is obvious.He responded that he doesn't want obligations and he doesnt want to promise me any future or something and he doesn't want to hurt me.And, that is how he lives his life.
If a friend of mine would tell about this to me, I would say that if a guy wants to be with you, but doesnt want to be in a relationship it means you are good , but not good enough, which isnt the best compliment.
Maybe I am wrong, I dont know.
I am not ready for anything serious , right now either.But, knowing he said it, kind of turned me off.Maybe I would stop liking him, maybe I would start liking him even more, but knowing he said at the begining (and especially on Facebook and not in person) made me wonder what I should do and especially made me mad because the way he acted at first, calling almost every day and even telling his colleague about us,might mean he wants something serious.
What do you think?I won't call.I know I wont.But, I am not sure what I should do if he will call.