Porn

[HeartIsAching]

We had a bit of an argument about it last night, and ive just found that he went on it last night when i was upstairs. He refuses to admit he's got a problem and continues to say i need to 'get over it', then as soon as i cry or get upset he says he'll stay away from it. Tired of hearing the same thing. So i've text him saying we need to talk when he finishes work. Urgh, really nervous..i know whats going to have to happen :/

But thanks for all the advice guys.

You do need to get over it.

You also need to stop using tears as a weapon, because it'll stop working eventually.

[romantic_guy]

You do need to get over it.

You also need to stop using tears as a weapon, because it'll stop working eventually.

I agree about the tears thing, but I disagree that she needs to get over it. It is effecting their sex life. She wants it from him and he is becoming increasingly disinterested in sex with her. An addict will stop at nothing to get the next fix even if all of his or her relationships are falling apart around them.

Again, do not use crying as a "weapon" but calmly and authoritatively set the boundary. Then he can make his choice.

[HeartIsAching]

No, her claim is that it's affecting their sex life.

It's probably untrue, as well. Whether or not he's interested in having sex with her likely has little to do with porn.

[romantic_guy]

No, her claim is that it's affecting their sex life.

It's probably untrue, as well. Whether or not he's interested in having sex with her likely has little to do with porn.

Oops...sorry! I should have said that the effect of his watching porn has affected the frequency of sex. All that aside, it would seem that it has everything to do with it. It just seems logical that having a girl ready to get it on with him all of the time would keep him interested in sex with her. That is, of course, unless she just lies there, is not involved, or is otherwise not the least bit interested. It sounds like she IS interested. She wants him. Porn can have a numbing effect (I got it right that time) resulting in a need for more and more stimulus. The result can be that she no longer does it for him. Do search on this and you will find much research that indicates this as a growing problem.

Here is one article:

[url=http://nymag.com/news/features/70976/]How Porn Is Affecting the Libido of the American Male -- New York Magazine[/url]

[Smirnoff Ron]

I make the boyfriend right - you DO need to get over it.
And you constantly nagging and crying is hardly gonna make him want sex with you is it?
Make a bit of an effort,maybe watch some porn with him and try to enjoy it.
It sounds like you're making hard work of this.

[Lover14]

[QUOTE=Smirnoff Ron;779520
And you constantly nagging and crying.[/QUOTE]

LOL. I never said i constantly cried.. and i wouldn't use it as a weapon?! I cried because i was upset, sorry i have emotions.


Also, we're fine now, we talked about it and made a compromise,so thanks to those who gave good advice.

[Kaius]

So two nights ago, at 3am, I woke up with a huge erection. My fiancee was asleep, and i knew she was exhausted. She lets me wake her up in the middle of the night to have sex, but I really wanted her to sleep.
So I took my phone, went into the bathroom, got on a porn site and whacked it out. It was great. I told my fiancee about it in the morning, and she appreciated my consideration.