Guest13,
You chose to get emotionally involved with a woman who was married. It was a bad choice. Now you see the consequences. You are probably a nice guy, thinking that just by being nice, you will get what you need. But that isn't true. I'm a "nice guy" but I stopped being passive, and started being more active. I search for women who are a good match for me, and if I learn something new about them, and they are no longer a good match, I move on. Because I have been much more active in my dating, I have been much happier with the results.
I was shy about relationships, and starting that first conversation with girls. So I worked on that, I took risks, I made a few minor mistakes early on, and laughed about them. I still take risks with people who I like, and I have very happy relationships with people that have a lot in common with me.
You should try that. Really think about the type of girl you need, and look for them.
Last edited by bulrush; 15-11-11 at 09:33 PM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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