Good day.
So I met a girl at work at first I wasn't interested in her in the slightest, I even told her about dates I had coming up and was taking her advice on it. I started to get a vibe that she might like me after she started saying things like she liked my haircut, asked if I was going to a work event as she had no one to go with and her boss reffered to us as a couple. However, I still continued talking to her and we started to take lunch together and after a rather dreadful date with another girl (who text me to say oh you don't seem to care about me too much) when I realised I liked the girl at work.
At this point I stepped things up a bit ( I was weary of the fact that we would have to see each other every day) so started by having lunch once a week. As we'd had a few unplanned lunches together, the problem we had here is we knew quite a bit about each other (as originally I saw her as nothing more then a friend). So I knew she had a pretty tough break up and was going through a really rough time. Anyway a few months went on and I thought now is the time to meet outside of work. Unfortunatley as I play sport on the weekend during the summer it was tough for me to fit her in as well, so when our season ended I asked if she'd like to meet up. At this point she said she would love to meet up sometime. So the following week I asked if she wanted to meet up that weekend she said she would see and later text me to say she couldnt but we could do it another time. Again as I was busy for a few weeks I left it a while but then asked her well in advance if she was free. She agreed but subsquently cancelled. I thought this was it and was going to give up until I saw her again and she told me about what had happened to her (it was bad) and spent the next lunch break trying to make her feel better about it.
Anyway time moved on and she agreed and came out with me a few weeks back and we had a great time, she said she'd been nervous we have nothing to talk about but it was easy. So we agreed to do it again sometime but due to annual leave and her moving to a new department I didn't seize the opportunity and we've only seen each other a bit since. However I did make sure to tell her that I had a good time and we should meet up again, I also bought her a card and made her a cd of the pictures from our day out and we were due to go out last week but she cancelled as her friend was having trouble with her friend. Now normally I would just take that as a hint but for a few reasons i'm not sure
* I've not really made it clear I like her, due to it being at work
* I don't call her/text her all the time (she doesn't ever iniatate this, although she seems quite shy in general) as i'm quite busy and in all honesty i'm not going to be one of those guys.
* I'm not sure I sured up our plans for going out as I left it to late last week (Wednesday) to confirm
She is sending mixed signals
* E.G. she always replies quickly to any message I send
* She always meets me for lunch or says we will meet the next days
* She gets jealous if i mention other girls ( I have quite a lot of friends)
However
* She never iniaties anything
* She doesn't seem to have any qualms about cancelling on me
* She doesn't give me compliaments anymore
* She doesn't seem to trust men