Hi,
I'm a 27 year old guy in desperation of some relationship advice. I've been with my GF for over 2 years, we've lived together for 6 months, been on a couple of expensive holidays together. I'm generally quite happy and I think she is too. Might also be worth mentioning that this is the longest relationship I've ever been in and never had to dump someone before.
The only problem is we are complete polar opposites, and although I have known this for a long time, it only really hit home when last week I went to a party and met another girl (nothing happened, I'm not a cheat), we got on like a house on fire, there was just something there that isn't there when I'm with my GF, which made me think that maybe I'm with the wrong person? (not that I should leave her for this other girl, because I have no idea if she even likes me... but if there is one out there that I get on with better, there's loads out there!)
I'm an adrenaline junkie, love everything fast, I'm ambitious and earn well, very sporty, funny, Mr nice guy. She is lazy, unambitious, doesn't have a full-time job, doesn't exercise and I'm pretty sure she would be content with being a housewife. We rarely have a meaningful conversation about anything else that reality TV, and I only have fuel for these conversations by reading tabloids! I also think we have poor chemistry in the bedroom, once we went for months without sex, because every time we've ever had sex I've had to initiate or basically rape her (without the forcefulness obviously) and I just couldn't be bothered to put all of the effort in when I could just masturbate - I don't know if it just gets like this after a while in relationships? Maybe a woman could answer this one for me...
Don't get me wrong, I love her to bits, if I didn't then I wouldn't find it so hard to end our relationship. The reason I'm finding this hard is because I know I'll break her heart; she doesn't expect this at all, we haven't argued, ever, and as far as she knows the relationship is going perfectly. I haven't been completely happy for a few months and I've been waiting for an opportunity (argument) to explain our differences, but I don't really think this is the way to do it.
Please help me!!