[EDIT]
I broke up with her as of this edit 12/4. It has been a few days but just letting future readers know
So I made a thread earlier about how she contacted her ex 3 weeks ago after he made a FB post about there would be 4 year anniversary. Since then they have hung out twice. Me and my GF have been together for 11 months now and I am truly in love.
Tonight I hung out with my GF and when we were alone she began to cry, after I had begged her to talk about it she tells me she still loves him and how terrible she is because of it. I ask her who she prefers, who she loves more and she says "I dont know".... She says that if she did get back with her ex that all her friends and family would hate her and that I would hate her. I tell her I wont (I cant) but admit that we can never hang out like we do now and being just friends will be way hard for me. I tell her that Im afraid that shes only staying with me because of everyone elses disapproval and she says "well...and other things too" In an unsure tone. After seeing in how much of a down mood I got in she tries to act all happy again to lift my spirits but I cant stop thinking about this all night.
Her ex in the past has been extremely possessive, controlling, and really mean to her. In the last 10 months he has had 2 girlfriends, one of which has openly stated how much of a dick he is. He claims he has changed, she does too, but I find it really hard to believe that he cna change into a totally different person in such a short time.
Christmas and our one year anniversary is coming up and past that I cant say how much longer will we def. be together. Its killing me....
Seems like the outcomes of her leaving me are
1.) He has changed and they live happily ever after together
2.) He hasnt changed, she realizes this and leaves him again
3.) He hasnt changed and she puts up with it
Help : (