Desperately trying to save a male-female friendship here.
4 weeks ago went through a deep depression (now on zoloft).
The female friend wanted to know why I would not see her (after 6 weeks of not seeing her, but plenty of texts, emails).
I had to be honest and tell her that it was partly a result of infatuation and obsessive thinking about how to respond to her. (I believe this is a byproduct of my depression). She was not able to respond at the time I learned later - and in the process I sent 4-5 emails over a 3 day period explaining myself.
Then I had an anxiety attack and texted her, wanting her to reassure me that she would be there for me when better (she said she would). That night I sent another email- explaining that I needed to take a break from contacting her- that no one should get that anxious about unreturned emails and that it wasn't healthy for me to be obsessing about communicating with her. And told her I would contact her again when completely better (counting on an ssri med to help me out here).
That was the plan. Its been a week and I just heard that she is coming to my workplace. So I have the opportunity to talk to her in person. I don't know what to say or even if she would be willing to see me now. What should I do? say?