I have to rant here. This overweight issue is my pet peeve. Actually, it's not about weight, it's about being lazy, or passive. While Kaius took the positive route, I'm taking the blunt route.
Ok, sorry I have to be so blunt, but I see this a lot. I'm very active in addressing problems in my life. I even had to lose weight 2 years ago and I kept it off, so I have no sympathy for people who whine about being fat and don't do anything about it. Having a baked chicken sandwich with EXTRA MAYO is not the way to go about it. (True story, I saw it myself.)
When my doctor asks a patient to lose weight, only 10% do it. There's your hard facts. She's fat, she doesn't care, she doesn't care about what you think, and statistically speaking, it is unlikely she will lose the weight. Really, you can try to help her through this, but you are not her therapist, and this is such a major issue, I don't think there is anything you can do to motivate her. Support her? Yes. Motivate her? No.
There's a reason why 60% of Americans are fat or obese. They just don't care. Politicians won't say it because they need the votes. Psychiatrists won't say it because they don't want to "hurt their feelings". God forbid a psychiatrist actually motivates someone for positive change. A doctor won't say it because he needs to keep his patients to pay the bills. But what else could it be?
Don't give me the crap about 60% of Americans are fat because of low self-esteem. If you are lazy, admit it and change it. I was fat, I ate poorly, and I didn't do the right exercises or enough of them, so I changed my lifestyle. It has nothing to do with low self-esteem. Whether you have low or high self-esteem, you are sane or crazy, you can still make life style changes to improve yourself. Stop making excuses and just make that change.
Now I'm off to work out.
EDIT: A woman who is 300-400 lbs is pretty common in the US. Don't know about where you are at. 90kg = 198 lbs. You have a pretty light woman there compared to Americans.
Last edited by bulrush; 25-11-11 at 01:24 AM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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