Hey everyone!
About 3 weeks ago, one of my friends, who I've known for about 2 years, but really got to know him this past summer, told me he feels strongly about me. I never thought of him as more than a friend, but I've been hanging out with him and trying to see where it goes.
Right now, I'm not sure if I like him, or if I just like the idea of a bf. After a big heartbreak and one year of being single, I love having someone to share my life with, cuddle and watch movies with, and sleep next to.
On paper, he's an amazing guy.I have a few issues though that are keeping me from completely dating him openly. He is about 3 years younger than me (i'm 26, he's turning 23 in a few days). Also, we are both grad students doing our phd...but he started his phd in our lab a lot later than me..in fact I was the one that hired him. So it feels wrong dating a junior that I hired..I could never tell anyone in our lab that we're dating, it seems very unprofessional and I feel like it makes me look desperate, dating someone younger, and more junior than me. Also, superficially speaking, he's very good looking, but I always pictured myself with a taller guy..and he's only 5'6" (I'm 5'3"). I think bigger than all of that, is I am not getting that "in-love" butterfly in the stomach feeling about him...which I think is the best part of a relationship. He's amazing in bed, but I don't even feel like tingles when I kiss him
I know he's a very caring, sweet, unselfish guy, and we get along great. Logically I know how amazing he is, but it feels like a comfortable sort of hanging out...not like my previous relationship, where I had a huge crush on the guy, and was sooooooo excited to start dating him. I miss having that nervous, I'm in love feeling.
What does lack of this feeling mean?? Does it mean I don't really have feelings for him, just like the idea of a bf, and I should break it off? What should I do about this situation, in terms of dating a younger guy, and working in the same lab (although I should be graduating in a year)?
Has anyone been in this situation before that could give me some advice? Thanks in advance
-Hope