So in light of my not-so-recent realization that I need to get out there and start dating again, I am in need of some advice from a guy's perspective!
Over the summer, I met a guy while out with friends. He's fantastic - smart, handsome, funny, and respectful. He got my number and we texted on and off for a while but I knew it just wasn't even close to time for me to start dating again so I put him off and eventually stopped talking to him altogether. Recently I contacted him just to wish him a happy birthday, and we started talking again. He called several times to ask me out, and we finally worked in a plan that was supposed to be a couple weeks ago. The day of the date came, and I hadn't heard from him for several days, so a few hours prior I sent him a text just to confirm that we were still on for the night. I heard nothing back, so when it got later I went out with friends instead. He didn't call me until about 11pm, apologizing profusely because he had left with his family a day early for his brother's wedding. Which is fine... that's an important occasion, but I felt a little disrespected that he didn't let me know. But anyhow... when he called to apologize he said "I swear I'm going to make this up to you when I get home, please let me do that. I'll call you when I get back to set something up, I promise you".
He's been home for about a week and he still hasn't called. To me, that means he's not interested (even though HE was the one who asked me out) and I'm not going to demean myself by contacting him... that seems so desperate to me. But my friends are giving me a pretty hard time about it, saying that I give up too easily and that if I want something I need to put myself out there and go for it. I just don't want somebody to go out with me because they feel sorry for me, I want it to be because they really want to. And I obviously am not even on his mind, or he's trying to avoid the situation altogether.
Am I giving up too easily or am I right to just leave it be?