8 years and now she's gone
Hey everyone,
I'm new here. This is largely because I was in a fantastic relationship for the past 8 years of my life. I met my girlfriend in high school, and we've been together ever since, including many difficult years in college. We've lived together for the past 3 years, including a temporary move to California (from New England). Our relationship has had its challenging times like any other, but generally speaking, I was never more in love with her than this past year. I've struggled to find a job and a career path, and I think that really ended up bothering her. But most recently, a random girl that I met in a bar texted me. I responded, and we conversed back and forth a few times. The messages were absolutely nothing sexual, and I don't really know why I responded. She came up to me at the bar and started talking to me. My girlfriend wasn't there, so I just went along with it. She got my phone number from looking at my phone, and she initiated the texting.
Anyways, my girlfriend took my phone and read my texts. Within 4 days, she disappeared. Upon returning, she asked me to not be there. So I went to friend's house. The next morning I received a call letting me know she had moved out of our condo and ended our lease effective immediately. I had to vacate by 8pm (the landlord would later text me this). My friend and I packed up my stuff, and I went to my parents' house. The following day, she drained all of our joint bank accounts (over $30,000) and left me without a penny, and with a mountain of cable debt (I signed a 2 yr contract). She bought an iphone and changed her phone number. I only know this because it pops up on facebook.
I didn't contact her for a full 8 days. I sent her a brief message this morning over facebook asking to meet in person to discuss our matters. I was left with nothing. I love this girl so much. I feel incredibly blindsided by this. She and I had incredible chemistry, our conversations were deep, our sex was fantastic (even after 8 years). We spent time with our couples' friends all of the time. Other than my employment situation, life was great. I would have proposed to her had I had the money to buy an engagement ring. I'm just devastated and unsure how to proceed. I need help. Thanks.