I've never posted anything on a message board or chat room before. I'm at the end of my rope and I am hoping for some helpful male perspective. Here's the deal: I can not get my husband to initiate sex with me. I'm married to a great guy and basically have a good happy life with him and our children. We've been together 3+ years and I'm still CRAZY about the guy. Most of the time he will participate if I get the ball rolling but he never seems to want to have sex if I don't start it. This issue bubbles into an argument a few times a year for us. I feel like he doesn't desire me. It's very painful. He always seems surprised when I bring the issue up. His take on it is always, didn't we just talk about this, or I did intitate sex that one time remember. He just won't grab on to the idea that I need regular physical validation from him.
I am sooooo sexually frustrated I'm going out of my mind! I have all this pent up energy. I'm starting to feel very angry toward him.
Maybe it is to much to ask that I get a good guy and a good sex life. However, I don't think I can keep living with this level of frustration.
Any advise?