My father 's health is deteriorating from Cancer, and I've been spending the last few weeks in the hospital. I was in a long distance relationship, and it bothered me that in the past couple weeks, my bf rarely texted me or called me first, to see how I was coping. He only responded if I texted him or called him first. Three nights in a row, when my dad's health got really bad, I was feeling really sad about my father, and I texted him and told him how I was feeling and that I would like to talk. He texted back on all three times that he was busy at the moment, either with work friends, or his parents, or with his friend. He offered to call me back later, but due to the time difference ( 3 hours) it always got too late for me by the time he was available.
I understand he's busy and has a life, but I figured if he cared, he would pick up the phone and just call me for a few minutes. This is what I would expect a normal guy genuinely cares to do. I would understand if he was in a workl meeting or appointment, he wouldn't be able to drop everything, but he was just hanging out with friends or colleagues. Anyway, I brought up how I felt, and told him I'd appreciate it if he'd be more supportive and just text me more throughout the day, or call me on his own, without always waiting for me to initiate. I said it would mean a lot to me, and it would show that he cares. The next day, I expected him to text me more, but I didn't hear from him at all. I ended up calling him, and he admitted that he doesn't like being told what to do. We got into a huge fight, and he said some really hurtful things out of anger (that I'm being selfish, don't understand men, etc), and then basically he wanted to just pick things up tomorrow. But, I'm the type who likes to solve things right away, or at least before I sleep, because my feelings of resent tend to grow overnight. I said nevermind and we ended our relationship.
Anyway, its over between us, but I want to know for my future relationships, am I expecting too much?