Best Friend and "almost GF"

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My story is complicated. Im a male and I fell in love by my best female friend 3 months after she finished a 8 years relationship (9months ago). We escalated the relationship in terms of flirting and then I told her my feelings. Some weeks later I kissed her, but she was still seeing her ex-boyfriend. 3 months after I said I was tired of it, cause all she can tell me was that she was confused between the two of us and that she was afraid to loose our friendship and I decided to gave us a time (she cried out a lot in that occasion). In that month she tried sth with her ex-bf but she understood that her old relationship was not going to work. 1 month after our "break time" she hit me 2x and than I finally gave up and let her kiss me. Afterwards our relationship flourished: we started talking everyday for long periods on the phone, then we started going watching movies, dinners and than she freaked out! I knew she didn't want me to press her so I let things go naturally but nevertheless she asked me if I was thinking about a serious relationship because she couldn't give me that right away. That was 1 month ago.
I respected the decision but I didn't stop escalating things. I kept talking to her, I took her on a 1 day full trip, we had sex several times, slept together, have cooked for each other and had tons of phone conversation. She told me that she was feeling shy before we had the 1st sex session and afraid I thought she wanted a full commitment. I thought: "maybe she needs to stop seeing me as a simple friend and see the real stuff". All our friends and family started asking when would we announce the commitment, some even thinking we were already a couple.
Well, last weekend she told me she didn't know if she should sleep in my place. Then she started talking about our relationship, saying she couldn't commit herself to me yet. Reasons: she was feeling to much pressure: friends asking things all the time and me telling her I didn't understand why she couldn't accept the commitment (I even cried in front of her, because of that pressure Im in for 9 months of hard feelings). She also told me she had a psychologic barrier to enter a new relationship, that she was still afraid of loosing my friendship, that she was afraid to be in-loved (weird no? lol), that she felt I was giving her what she couldn't give me because she felt something was missing, sht she thinks she should feel and she doesn't! She told me "maybe my heart is broken and Im frozen and I really need to hear you saying I understand you! Because Im giving the best I can"

Well, Im tired of trying but Im trully in-loved by her. I met several girls but I thing I could say this: I know this one is the one! I know it cause I know her for 11years and we are so compatible and funny together. I don't want to dump her, so Im asking some advice so I can give her this one small last click on her head: attitudes, invitations, phone conversations...should I keep doing what Im doing and/or add sth else that could make her realize she wants me?

[bulrush]

If she's not ready for more, she's not ready. You can't change her unless she wants to change, then she has to ask for your help if she wants it. This type of thing happens more than you think, where the attraction and/or feelings is more one way, than the other. And they eventually break up due to different goals.

It happened to me. Great girl I met, she was nice, respectful, didn't mind putting effort into the relationship (this is very rare). But in the end we had different long-term goals. We are still friends though. We broke up as best friends, both of us saying how great the other one was. Weird, huh?

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Thanks! We are both 24. Now I don't know if I should call her (because we used to talk everyday) or to wait for her to do it. I wanted to keep thinks going (and she told me the same) but since we had this last conversation, she only text message me 1x a day (and then I call her later on that day). I want to feel she can fight for me as well, though I feel she wants me, unconsciously, to go after her (thats why she called me once, just the day after we had THE conversation). If we don't start talking daily as we did, I can't feel I should ask her out. The stupid part is that both of us feel relief after talking with each other on the phone (after I call her, she sends me happy flirting messages and if I don't she tries to keep the conversation via casual text messages)! what should I do?