end of a 12 year friendship

[MaidenMinx]

ok sorry for my defensiveness.

[IndiReloaded]

Who cares about why she reacted the way she did? She sounds nuts. Three times and physically removed from your house? I think you are past due some new friends, Minx.

[MaidenMinx]

I agree Indi.

[Petit Papillon]

Two can play at that game.
When there's a story like this one, I just know that the second version is not as black and white as this one. But oh well, look for new friends...

[MaidenMinx]

Two can play at that game.
When there's a story like this one, I just know that the second version is not as black and white as this one. But oh well, look for new friends...

I am a big believer in the saying 'there are 3 sides to every story. Your side, my side and the truth'
I haven't lied in my telling of the story, I don't know if she would lie in her telling of the story, and an impartial observer would probably tell the story differently to either of us.
Have I been a perfect friend? God no. I doubt there is any such thing.

[HeartIsAching]

Geez MM, I just saw this... so sorry to hear.

I think you did it pretty much right.

[MaidenMinx]

Thanks and thanks again HIA.

You know the weird bit, there has been such a sudden drop in external tension in my life that I don't even miss her. I've even developed the confidence to tell my mum and my brothers when they are bringing unnecessary tension into my life. It feels awesome!

[Mish]

In the end this wasn't a good friendship, it's a good thing it ended. Sometimes we associate with "poisonous" people, which we tolerate for the sake of friendship, it takes an incident to see them for what they really are.

[MaidenMinx]

Mish, I completely agree.

Weird bit, I didn't really like her when I first met her and she ended up becoming a close friend purely through circumstance.

And may I say I love your sig. Very timely for me to read that. It's going on my white board. :-)

[MaidenMinx]

So it seems there is further fall out...

About 18 months ago I ran into a friend I hadn't seen in years. He was a postie at the time and had delivered some parcels from ebay to me. We picked up the friendship where we left off and it wasn't long before he was coming around. The now ex friend had also been friends with him years back.

It would seem he is prone to taking sides. Doesn't really surprise me as he has been single for a while and started asking more and more about the ex friend when she became single last year.

I guess the bit that stings is 1) he is the only one of our friends to take sides (well as far as I can tell. I haven't gone out of my way to tell any of our mutual friends about the argument, though I have had a couple of friends mention it, to which I have just responded with "Yeah, shit defies gravity and hits the fan sometimes" and then move the convo on) and 2) ... to be honest I can't quite remember what 2 was (I got distracted just after typing 2 and my train of thought had completely derailed before I came back to the computer).

Maybe I should scratch up some positives out of this. He is a pot head and I don't need that type of influence around at the moment....

Doesn't mean I won't miss him.

[Lovable]

If any friends are only willing to hear 1 side of the story & side with only 1 mutual friend, then those other friends aren't true friends either.

[bulrush]

I'm sorry to hear this bothered you, Minx. But I think having less drama in your life is better for you. I don't tolerate poisonous people and I'm much happier for it.

[MaidenMinx]

Thanks lovable and bulrush.
On the true friend front, you're probably right. I put it down to the fact that he wants to get his dick wet and that's got no chance of happening here and I don't think she would allow him that right if he were friends with me. That makes me more sad for my hubby because they'd become fishing buddies.

And on the drama front, bulrush, you are definitely right! I am striving to be drama free and I'm even calling my mum on her drama. I never could do that before.

[Mish]

Mish, I completely agree.

Weird bit, I didn't really like her when I first met her and she ended up becoming a close friend purely through circumstance.

And may I say I love your sig. Very timely for me to read that. It's going on my white board. :-)

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