Mark,
Swingers tend to be very nice people with a very good grasp at relationships. Their communication MUST be clear and direct so no misunderstanding or jealousy occurs. They don't want drama, just a bit of variety, and partners are vetted carefully. They are very open-minded and non-judgemental. They should be completely honest about what they want from you. Usually they start off with a date but you don't have to have sex. They understand everyone is different and goes at different speeds, and they are fine with that. Just tell her directly how you would like to proceed. If you change your mind and want sex on the first date, ask her.
I think you are just nervous because this swinger girl may seem overwhelming to you. When I had sex the first time I was also very nervous, so I had a few beers. That helped. Your first time you will be nervous, and I think this swinger gal will be honest about what she wants, and I think you need that clear communication. She will also be patient, and I think you need that too.
You don't know me, but I think she is a good fit for you. My first girl was very nice, but not real experienced.
The other thing is my first time was surprisingly emotional for me. I cried a lot, but only because it was so good, and so intimate, that I was overwhelmed. Poor girl probably thought I was bonkers. lol.
Bottom line: you are simply nervous about something new, and that's normal. You need to take a chance and go for it. Then tell us how it went.
Take care.
Bulrush
Last edited by bulrush; 16-01-12 at 10:14 PM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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