Hey, just wanted people's opinions on something that happened today. Quick background: was with my ex for 6 years. It was the first serious relationship for both of us. He broke up with me almost 7 months ago as he said he was no longer in love with me. It was all very sudden and there were no warning signs.
Today we met up as I had some of his stuff at my parents house that I wanted to give back. We haven't seen each other since we broke up and we barely talked (just a few emails). It was great seeing him, it wasn't awkward at all, felt like meeting up with an old friend. In fact, we were having such a good catch up that we decided to go to a pub for a couple of hours. Afterwards he dropped me off at my parents house and he started crying. He wasn't like properly sobbing his eyes out or anything, but was still crying nonetheless. I asked what was wrong and he said that it's sad to think about what happened (meaning that we broke up). I said well yeah it's sad that we broke up but he ended it for a reason so ultimately it's a good thing and he just said several times that it's still sad.
I was not expecting this at all. He's your typical guy, doesn't really cry much. So I was quite surprised that he cried- I mean I didn't (nor did I feel like I wanted to). So just wondering what people make of that. He also said that I seem better off without him and looked kinda sad when he said it.
I should also mention that he is seeing someone and started seeing her about a month after we broke up. He told me who it is that he is seeing and I was very surprised because he's mentioned her before and she has got some pretty extreme mental health problems- so extreme that she hasn't worked in over 8 years. There's two reasons why it surprised me that he's dating her; 1. I used to have bad depression and that really took its toll on him I know he thought about leaving me several times because he couldn't cope (but didn't becaused he loved me). 2. I was out of work for 3 years due to ill health (nothing to do with my mental health- I was depression free at this point) and we both kinda agreed that probably he fell out of love because he ended up being my carer. I know you can't help who you fall for but I'm very surprised he got into another relationship with someone with significant health issues. She's bipolar and it must be pretty bad to stop her working for so long. He used to say that he doesn't think she will ever work. He didn't look particularly happy when he spoke about her, but on the other hand they've been together for getting on for 6months so he must be happy. But that kinda makes our breakup make even less sense now. I could pretty much understand him breaking up with me if he felt like he was my carer, but it doesn't make sense that hes gone into another relationship like that. My health fortunately is loads better and I now work full time- which I think is why he said I seem better off because obviously with working comes new friends, more confidence etc so it probably seems that way but actually is nothing to do with him not being my bf. Just thought that might be relevant to the situation.