Whats your guys thoughts on rebound sex?

[xztjohn]

I remember saying that if me and my ex had a break up and she had sex with another guy then any potential of us getting back together will be destroyed. i just dont know what i believe in anymore. im curious to see whats your guys thoughts on rebound sex?

[Boisdevie]

The whole rebound sex is a pack of bullshite. If you have broken up then the chances of getting back together again are pretty much zero in the long term. Why else would you have broken up in the first place?

[searock]

I really don't understand why guys get so pissed off when their EX has sex with someone else. Especially if it happens a short time after the break-up, which means there likely are little to no feelings involved. Really, why does it piss you off so much?
Don't you think it's normal to have sex with who you want when you're not in a relationship?

[DailyGrinder]

I really don't understand why guys get so pissed off when their EX has sex with someone else. Especially if it happens a short time after the break-up, which means there likely are little to no feelings involved. Really, why does it piss you off so much?
Don't you think it's normal to have sex with who you want when you're not in a relationship?

So, it would be OK with you if the roles were reversed? You ex is off with some other girl in the interim, what if they were sleeping with someone else while they still called you, messaged you, or further continued to contact you? That wouldn't bother you? I think it would hurt on both sides. Sometimes intimacy in the interim is just a search momentary comfort. It doesn't mean that there aren't still feelings for an ex or that they wouldn't still have feelings for you. In which the case remains that knowing your recent ex is sleeping with someone can hurt just as much, even more if you know they are still holding on.

[searock]

Yes, of course I would be pissed at him if we weren't really broken up, as you say.

Meaning that, if he continues to contact me asking me to get back together AND I still have feelings for him, then we are still having an emotional romantic relationship, therefore we are not really broken up. In this case, I would obviously get pissed if he slept with other people in the meanwhile. Because, how does he expect me to believe that he really cares for me if he sleeps around with other chicks? I would feel like he was making fun of me or not taking "us" seriously.

But if we are *really* broken up (and not just "on hold"), he can do what he pleases, as can I. If we somehow, in the future, start talking about getting back together again, it's a new chapter and what happened in his sex life while we were broken up doesn't really count (I would just probably insist for him to get tested if he slept with someone else).

I'm assuming the OP and his ex are/had *really* broken up.

(I definitely would get pissed if I were the "new girl" he was dating while still thinking about the ex though./OT)

[DailyGrinder]

I just know from experience, because I am in this exact situation right now.

[searock]

Do you both still have feelings for one another and talk about getting back together? Or is it just you hoping someday you will? If it's the latter, you should move on. If it's the former and she's sleeping with someone else, you should move on (she is being incoherent and disrespectful).

[xztjohn]

In the early stages of the break up she would always contact me call me, text me, and email me making it seem like she wanted to get back together when she was dating this other guy i mean wtf. She always said one thing and did another. When I asked her straight up one time if she had sex with him and she said yes then I said it was over, which she then wanted me back really really bad, but i wasn't having it. As of right now the break up is really over after my mistake of not talking to her for a month saw her and got all these emotions and asked for her back, it was a real big mistake of mines which I regret, which she said no. Now its really over. However she randomly texted me out of nowhere saying "I hope you are doing well" and unblocked me from facebook after a month. I didn't respond to her and blocked her from my fb. What do you think that was all about?

[Boisdevie]

However she randomly texted me out of nowhere saying "I hope you are doing well" and unblocked me from facebook after a month. I didn't respond to her and blocked her from my fb. What do you think that was all about?

Hard to say. I dumped my ex-GF. Got a few messages and texts and I told her I'd found somebody new. A few months back (i.e. 18 months after we split) she tells me she'd like to see me, can she come round with champagne. I didn't even reply. Some women are just too hard to work out.

[xztjohn]

Just out of curiosity why did you dump her? My situation is little different, even though I dumped her first I wanted her back, she was the one that dumped me for good, while she was dating her roomie.

[searock]

So she told you she wanted to get back together with you but in the meanwhile she dated another guy? I don't get what you're complaining about, you did the right thing in blocking her out of your life. I still don't get why you got more upset at the thought of them *having sex* than generally dating - in either case she was being deceitful, saying one thing and doing the opposite. It's not much about the sex as it is about the whole situation.

[xztjohn]

yeah she was always saying one thing to me and did another. Just don't understand some people. She like begged and really wanted me back when I thought I was truly done with her, funny right? Waiting for her for like a month with all these games and manipulations. She hurt me really bad......