Yeah I did. Didn't go with the wife to visit family last weekend because I saw it as an opportunity to be away from her anger issues. She got angry, as expected, she got home, we discussed, then she got angry once again because I was trying to avoid her anger [???]. She ended the conversation abruptly by saying "well I'm going to get off the phone since I'm such a bitch". Ending conversations after trying to establish herself as a victim in any given situation seems to be her forte.
At any rate I found a counselor whose rates will not rape my butthole as hard as the rest (only $100 per hour... yay). I made sure to choose a woman so that it wouldn't look like I was trying to look for male validation or something like that. The visit wasn't really what I expected though. We really didn't get to the meat of anything. We kinda just talked. I do see that it is going to be helpful to have a moderator there during discussions. The wife was only halfway cooperative, especially when the same points that I have been saying forever were echoed by the counselor. I also found out that the insurance company rep lied to me on the phone. My insurance company does cover counseling, just not couples counseling... so much time wasted because of that jerk. I could have been in counseling using my insurance for two years now. I will have to pay out of pocket for any couples sessions though, which doesn't sting nearly as badly.