Where do I begin...
I was with my girl for about 9 months and things were great and not so great at the same time. We had amazing chemistry (in and out of bed), our conversations were deep and meaningful, we cared deeply for one another and above all had a blast everytime we were together without fail. On the down side, she is a single mother of 2, with quite a bit of emotional baggage. Our real problems started when I accidently read a text on her phone from some random guy who had asked her out. Her response was not direct, indicating she enjoyed the attention, but nevertheless rebuffed his advances. A few weeks later, she willingly showed me a message from her ex boyfriend (not husband) asking for a late night encounter - bearing in mind she was head over heels in love with him. The fact that she showed me this text was a good sign because it meant she did not care for him anymore, but I couldnt help but feel uneasy that so many guys were in contact with her. I let those two incidents pass and continued to invest in our relationship. Fast forward a few weeks and I find out she had been texting her ex quite regularly which in turn helped build mistrust. We began to fight more regularly, demanding she respects our relationship and cut contact with the inappropriate ex who only had one thing in mind. Although she was very understanding and agreed it was inappropriate, the contact never seemed to stop. At that point, we decided to call it quits because the fights had taken their toll, only for us to get back together a week later because we both decided we really loved each other and wanted to give it another try.
The second attempt was great, I had (almost) let go of the trust issues and began to adopt a more laid back, whatever will be will be approach. We spent alot of time together, maybe a little too much but none of us complained because we had a great time. But at the back of my mind, something entirely different had always been bothering me...in all our 9 months together, I had been out with her friends no more than 2 times. On the other hand, I would regularly make the effort to take her out with my friends every other weekend. The boiling point came 3 weeks ago when she invited me out to her best friends birthday dinner only to take it back on the day saying "we see each other so much, Id rather go out just with my friends" my natural reaction was an angry one as I had been waiting for her to finally make the effory only to take it back and crush my dignity in the process. We argued albeit politely until she said I cant do this anymore, its too much drama..My response was well, you invite drama by doing things like that! so right then and there we ended it..I tried reasoning with her for a good 2 weeks, trying to keep my self-respect in the process. A week after we broke up, I found out she had been seeing someone else and now he goes to her house every other night..effectively replacing me..my guess is that she either: 1- Jumped at the chance to end it with us to be with him. or 2 - She is using him to rebound. Either way, ill never forgive her because of the way it ended. She pinned it all on me for being so sensitive when in truth her actions were way more pathetic..
I still somehow love this girl, but know its in my best interests to move on..her lack of guilt or effort in this whole break up has made me realise she isnt worth any of mine in return..
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks