We've all read the books and seen the movies "He's just not that into you" and similar, so you should know what I mean when I ask "am I the exception or the rule".
I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months. We met one year ago at the student bar, as we study at the same university. I immediately found him attractive, added him on facebook and would occasionally start chatting with him. But we weren't really friends, our relationship was pretty shallow. He never showed any signs of interest what so ever in me.
So last summer I was moving to the other side of the country, and I thought, what the heck, I'll try and pick him up for a night of fun before I go. So I texted him and asked basically "Wanna f***?".
He said yes, I went over, we had sex. I texted him afterwards asking if he wanted to "do a re-match" some day, and he said yes. Two days later we hooked up again, I texted him. Two days after that, he texted me and wanted to hook up but I had my period and said that I couldn't have sex, but if he wanted to arm wrestle instead, we could do that (as a joke, I expected that we would just meet up another day). However, he asked me to come over anyways, which I did. We snuggled a little bit, but he didn't try anything.
A couple of weeks passed, we met every other day, not always for sex. At one point we talked about relationships in general, and I found out that he wasn't much of a long distance-guy. I was disappointed as I had started to like him over these past weeks. So came the last week before I moved and, well, he asked if I wanted to be in a relationship with him even after I've moved. I said yes of course, and here we are.
After a while I moved back so now we live near each other again. Sometimes I have doubts about our relationship, and feel like I am the one putting most effort into it and therefore being more in love with him than he is in me. I don't feel I recieve as much as I give.
Returning to my starting question, I've heard tons and tons about how women should never pick up men and doing so won't result in a lasting relationship, in being the rule and not the exception. If guys don't get to chase, it's not worth keeping. So after reading this wall of text, what do YOU guys think? Am I the exception or the rule?