the happy feeling

[oldskool83]

It's been months since I've had real happy/excited feeling towards a girl. Not sure why the girl i'm seeing is not making me feel that but I've never felt it with her after 2 months.

I've had a string of bad luck over the last year, many ups and down and I am not really the same as I use to be I've noticed. I am not her b/f or anything, just trying to get to know her more and see if we are a good match, at times I think no, other times i think yes. Normaly looking back any girl I've seen I had been excited to see her but this girl it seems more mechanical then anything.

I had been truely single 6 months, not that that was even an issue. Better to be single then with the wrong person. I am at the age now where I only want to be in a relationship if I feel its really going to last, so I do not want to jump and rush to label sum1 somthing just to say look I have a g/f. I've also turned a lot of women down because they were not full divorced or 1st filed and I did'nt want to be in the middle of a never ending stress battle or be a rebound for those women 1st finding them selves back into the dating world.

I've come to question if I am holding out for somthing or if the envents that have taken place have made me a little harder and colder towards opening up to let my feelings out. My attitue has been IDK, take it or leave it and have not really had a true desire to seek women out and do the dating sceen. My family has notice Ive only been frustrated. An odd request but everyone who has meet me really gets along with my, its problaly me but not sure how to really be openly with feelings again after being cheated on, then kicked out of a girls house while she ened up seein another guy i found out and then a 3rd time of getting peaced for no apparent reason, all times i had opened up to people who i was very much into.

any advice, feel free to blast away.

[Mathias]

It's been months since I've had real happy/excited feeling towards a girl. Not sure why the girl i'm seeing is not making me feel that but I've never felt it with her after 2 months.

I've had a string of bad luck over the last year, many ups and down and I am not really the same as I use to be I've noticed. I am not her b/f or anything, just trying to get to know her more and see if we are a good match, at times I think no, other times i think yes. Normaly looking back any girl I've seen I had been excited to see her but this girl it seems more mechanical then anything.

I had been truely single 6 months, not that that was even an issue. Better to be single then with the wrong person. I am at the age now where I only want to be in a relationship if I feel its really going to last, so I do not want to jump and rush to label sum1 somthing just to say look I have a g/f. I've also turned a lot of women down because they were not full divorced or 1st filed and I did'nt want to be in the middle of a never ending stress battle or be a rebound for those women 1st finding them selves back into the dating world.

I've come to question if I am holding out for somthing or if the envents that have taken place have made me a little harder and colder towards opening up to let my feelings out. My attitue has been IDK, take it or leave it and have not really had a true desire to seek women out and do the dating sceen. My family has notice Ive only been frustrated. An odd request but everyone who has meet me really gets along with my, its problaly me but not sure how to really be openly with feelings again after being cheated on, then kicked out of a girls house while she ened up seein another guy i found out and then a 3rd time of getting peaced for no apparent reason, all times i had opened up to people who i was very much into.

any advice, feel free to blast away.

6 months isn't long at all. That's pretty much how long I've been single, and it seems like that time flew by.

I think you're doing fine - you're just putting some weird pressure on yourself to conform to some standard that doesn't actually exist.

[oneandonly]

Try 3 years! lol

Looking back, I regret that I had let the past experience hold me back in so many ways for so long. You live once. Do not waste it!

[bulrush]

I think you should try to find that girlfriend who is just right. It will take longer, but it will be worth it in the end. I keep looking for a serious relationship. Some things just didn't last for one reason or another, though I found some very nice girls. So I keep looking and I just try to be hopeful but realistic at the same time.

The other thing is, if we break up, I don't take it personally. There are many reasons why a person will break up with another. And sometimes someone who is a better match comes along. It's not my fault. I am who I am, and I'm a pretty solid, decent person. If they want someone else, that's fine. I'll find someone else too.

[oldskool83]

ive been having a wall up more and more after shitty situations. i dont even wanna talk to the women who try and talk to me lol. just gotta let me wall down i guess slowly.

[angelsnairwaves]

if you are that wishy, washy about her, then sounds like you need to give her the boot. doesnt sound like its going to go anywhere. maybe you need more time to yourself. sounds like you are not in a good place to be starting a relationship with ANYONE. sounds like you are still dealing with hurt from the past and arent ready to let it go. be patient with yourself. give yourself time to heal. maybe it is truly too soon. dont be so hard on yourself. sounds like you have been burned a lot and that its understandable for you to find yourself in the position you're in.