I married my husband in November, in Feb I found chat logs from him and a girl he works with, basically talking about how much they wanted to sleep with each other, I was heart broken, in my eyes he has been unfaithful, if you are happy in your home life you dont need to speak like that to anyone.
I confronted him about it and at the time he was very remorseful, he knew he had done wrong and he apologised and promised to try hard to make things right.
As of yesterday I found he was lying, he is still seeing her, doesnt think he has done anything wrong, infact our argument yesterday ended up with me being wrong, me being an awful miserable person who made him unhappy.
He confronted me, yes I checked up on him, he has always been so secretive and time and time again, and I know I am wrong, he never talks to me, I didnt know what else to do.
and here is the problem, do I try and save my marriage? or do I let it go?
We have 2 children and I dont want to cause them any hurt, but I am hurting myself and he is telling me to just 'get over it' because he already has, he doesnt understand that its not just like the snap of my fingers and its forgotten, he doesnt understand that he has hurt me, he is not willing to stop seeing this girl 'on the principal of it', he wont let me control who he can or cant see (his words, fair enough I guess) but I feel sick to my stomach when he leaves every morning, is he going to work or going to see her?
He told me he married me hoping I would change, hoping I would go back to the person he first met and was in those first few months, the honeymoon period me, life has changed, we have our children, we have responsibilities, life is hard and we are barely getting by, it has taken its toll and I am not the happy carefree person I was then.