Ok so this is going to be a long story. I just want all the info out there, so I can have accurate help.
I met a girl who is 7 years younger than I am. We have fallen madly in love and have been dating for 3 months. I believe it to be a love at first sight scenario, like two soul mates meeting. Everything about us is good. The sex, we hold hands, we kiss all the time, etc. It's all great. We talk abot being together forever, how we are the loves of each others lives etc.
She came from a broken home and her mom was never there she raised herself. She never knew her dad and her mom always bashed him. Now she talked to her dad and he says the mom wouldn't allow him to contact her, etc. So she is very resentful to her mom. She doesn't know what has happened in truth and probably never will.
So anyway she got pregnant at 16 with this guy. He always cheated on her, called her fat and ugly, and beat her. They cheated on each other and broke up on and off again. Then she had a second child by him at 19 years old. She had dropped out of high school and so had he. She says she never loved him it they got married so the kids could have a dad like she never did.
After more cheating, a non existent sex life, mental and physical abuse she finally moves out. In the mean time she gets her grade 12, and also gets his by doing it for him correspondence. So now she is in post secondary school and I meet her. She is 7 months "separated" right now.
First she has cheated on everyone she has been with, by going back to him. Or her cheating on him. So far I know she hasn't cheated. She swears she knows she can never lose me and swears she will never hurt me.
However he calls and texts her daily. Always wanting her to buy him clothes online, or to drop her lawyer so he doesn't have to pay. She thinks he still loves her. It scares me she entertains all his phone calls. He never sees his kids, and he never calls to talk to them or help with them. I told her to stop buying his clothes and she says she feels sorry for him. He blames her for having a crappy life. She also says she is scared he will kill himself and she slowly needs to remove him from her life. It just sucks because he won't give her back her personal belongings, her dog, stuff like that. But she still does all this stuff for him.
She says she could never go back to him, and will never hurt me. She says she is only being nice to him in hopes he will be a good dad. And she doesn't want her kids to hate her like she hates her mom.
Do I have a beef here? Advice? I told her 5 years down the road she can't be doing his homework and buying his clothes. She said that she won't be. He is having trouble getting over the separation and she is just trying to help him. I don't know I need help. Should I tell her she can be a friend but stop buying the clothes?