Does this only happen to me?

[kiterunner]

So, here is the story. Three years ago, I asked out one of the girls at work and she said no. Somehow, we stayed friends although I made it clear what I wanted from her. Few months after that I moved to a new town. She also moved. We kept in touch. She told me she got a boyfriend at some point, so I simply stopped talking to her for almost a year. Then we talked again and it seemed I was over her. Finally I visited her new town on a business trip and we met and she took a little time to show me around. For whatever reason I felt very comfortable with her and I was very happy in her company. Then I left. For the whole last week, all I could think was her. I know she likes me, but it would be ridiculous to imagine she has any interest in me. Nonetheless, I felt like I felt three years ago, that if she said anything, I'd give up everything I have to be with her.

My question is: does anyone else experience things like that, or am I the only idiot?

[dem862]

You are not the only idiot. The part where you said you would give up everything you have to be with her makes me a little worried about you. Women don't want to be put on a pedestal. Usually they want a man who treats them as an equal, even better if it is a man with higher social value than them. You have an obsession going on. She may like to be object of an obsession, but she won't respect you for it.

[smackie9]

Just because a girl shows some interest doesn't mean it's sexual. You already found out where she stands when you asked her out on a date. NO, and that is her final answer. dem862 hit it right on the head, all of that is true. Once you get out of this obsessing habit you have and focus on other things in your life, you will succeed in finding yourself a nice girl.

[kiterunner]

I think your answers horrify me. I made a career of my obsessions. All my life is made of obsessions and addictions. If I find the "nice girl" I'll probably be obsessed with her, too.

[dem862]

I think your answers horrify me. I made a career of my obsessions. All my life is made of obsessions and addictions. If I find the "nice girl" I'll probably be obsessed with her, too.

Hows that been working out for you?

[smackie9]

I think your answers horrify me. I made a career of my obsessions. All my life is made of obsessions and addictions. If I find the "nice girl" I'll probably be obsessed with her, too.

Stop shooting yourself in the foot then.....you may have OCD, find a therapist and get some counseling.

[smackie9]

Hows that been working out for you?

Ya this.....