What's her deal?

[Montclair3]

Hey everyone - Been lurking the forum for awhile and thought I'd give it a chance.. Here's my situation:

I met a girl back in Frosh week (I'm 1st year uni) and we became good friends within a month of knowing each other. I told her I had feelings for her and at this point she was on rocky terms with her (ex) and I'm guessing they were still on and off at the time. She brushed it off saying she wasn't ready and I told her that it would be a good idea if we stopped talking.

About 2 months ago she re-added me back on messenger saying she hoped to be friends with me again and I agreed. After not speaking to me for a week I asked her what the point of adding me back was and she responded with hostility saying she doesn't have to talk to me every day and that she'll just delete me again and I said fine, so she did.

FINALLY, I saw her in person last week and she came up to me saying she's sorry for w.e happened and asked to have my messenger again so I gave it to her. She talked to me telling me how her and her BF are done and that she tried so hard with him but that it didnt work and she's ready to meet new people and have new memories.

In sum, this girl is messing with my head and my emotions and everytime I get over her she just pops back into my life and I develop some hope that maybe she wants something with me. Or could it be that she just really values our friendship a lot? Any and all input is appreciated -

Thanks in advance!

[surfhb]

Move on for sure.....too many fine girls out there to even think about dealing with one who originally blows you off then wants more attention from you.

[AnnonymousMan]

Sounds like you are her rebound. Woman are like monkeys, they cannot let go of one branch until they get a good grip on the next. I would tell her no, remain friends with her for at least a month so she gets a taste of being single (Wait longer if you want) then date her. Or, date her but DO NOT rush it. If you see her trying to rush things, it is a sign that she just wants what she use to have, and I would dump her. Don't let this girl play you bro, you wear the pants, if she deleted you and now wants to re add you, I would of told her to f off.

[miffy]

While I agree with Annon's advice, I wouldn't put too much credit in statemens such as "woman are like monkeys" etc...that's pretty sexist, ignorant and stupid.

That being said, the advice is solid. She probably wants you in some way or another, but don't turn into her rebound and don't let her play you. Be confident and independent, give her some time to sort herself out, if she's not playing psycho again you could consider asking her out. As Annon said, be on the look-out for overly clingy or rushed behaviour. And watch out if she talks starting about her ex. And if that is all too much for you, simply laugh it off and move on. More fish in the sea!