My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year.
This is by far my longest relationship.
I really love him, and I think he really loves me too.
He constantly says he does, and he even talks about marriage and our future, tells me how pretty i am, that i'm his "dream girl"
buttttt from the start he's talked to a lot of girls.
a lot.
Most of them he meets online (we actually met online, which is weird for me).
It weirded me out a ton from the start that he talks to all these girls, but I didn't want to seem crazy so I mostly kept it to myself.
Before we were official, though, I did make one joke when some random girl he met online texted him.
he looked at me like I was crazy and showed me a conversation between them.
she told him she liked him....he told her "There's already this girl I like a lot, and I don't want to screw it up."
That calmed my nerves for awhile.
Then, I found out more about him and learned that he's been with quite a few girls, including girls he still talks to.
One in particular liked every single one of his posts of facebook, when I asked him about her and if they ever dated he said "hell no"
then he drunkingly told me they had sex one night when he was super drunk.
i got mad...said he should have told me that when I asked if they dated.
he agreed, but doesn't think it was that wrong to not tell me when I asked that.
he then said they rarely talk anymore.
then he logged onto facebook and the first thing that popped up was a chat window of a conversation between him and that girl.
again...i flipped.
I held in my crazy, again even though i constantly saw all these girls liking his posts of facebook....girls he said were "friends" but i have never met before and he never even mentioned before.
finally i asked him who one girl was that would not stop commenting on all his junk in an awkward flirty way (can't say he flirted back that i saw, but still)
then he acted like he had no clue who i was talking about.
the next day he got a text...i looked over saw it was the girl he "forgot" and I of course snapped
he sad he rarely talks to her so he didn't remember her at first.
turns out he met her online and gave her his number AFTER me and him were official.
i think that crossed a line, and told him so.
he agreed...said it wasn't anything weird...they were just friends.... she lives like 3 hours away....but promised he'd stop talking to her.
he still swears he hasn't talked to her in awhile yet she still is liking his junk on facebook and trying to text him.(not nearly as much, though)
seems odd to me.
its almost like every couple weeks a girl pops up out of nowhere FLOODS his facebook with junk...he swears it's a friend that hes somehow never mentioned before...then she goes away.
this weekend though we had our biggest fight.
of course over all of this.
i'd been feeling really low lately..not sure why...so i just kind of snapped.
hes the type that says nothing...doesn't want to deal with it...i'm the type that FREAKS and says really mean things.
finally i calmed down and tried making it up to him
he said he'd stop talking to girls as much.
then i get on facebook tonight and the first thing i see is that he liked some random girls picture that was edited to say "one hot momma"
i think thats weird.
especially after what happened.
instead of calmly asking him about it...i just snap.
he tells me i'm being crazy...she's just a friend...not a big deal.
now that I think about it maybe I am being crazy.
i've always thought all of my boyfriends were cheating on me.(i have been cheated on before)
I just never really freaked out about it cause I've never cared about someone this much.
so part of me thinks maybe that means i'm just paranoid.
its not like i ever feel like i don't know where he is or who he's with.
and i do think he is kind of insecure and doesn't wanna admit it so maybe he just likes the attention, but would never act on it.
(i've said that to him before and all he said was 'idk...maybe')
plus, he has told me things that he knew would piss me off (like he had popped some pills the night before) cause he didn't wanna hide it from me.
so maybe he is honest.
or maybe he is up to something.
idk.
i just need some really honest opinions.
i want to make this work.
i feel like i'm acting nuts!